There seems to be no end to the epidemic of body-shaming and anti-fat abuse. People feel entitled to criticise other people’s physical appearance as much as they like.
Men are less likely to be criticised than women, even men
with huge beer bellies, which are very common in Northern Ireland.
But women are castigated for any number of supposed physical
faults – being fat, being too thin, being ugly, being badly dressed, being
dowdy, you name it.
Luckily I’ve never been criticised for being fat, as I’ve
always been thin and if anything I’m underweight. Being constantly reprimanded
for being fat must be infuriating.
There’s a general assumption that a woman is fat because she
eats too much, though of course that’s not necessarily the case. But the
critics don’t care about the actual causes, they just want to be viciously
judgmental.
There’s also an assumption that a fat woman is less
intelligent than a thin woman, which is equally absurd.
I admire those women who don’t care over-much how they’re
seen by others and just carry on regardless. It takes a lot of determination
and self-confidence when other people (mainly men but not always) are happily
picking holes in you.


Women can be just as vicious in fat shaming other women as men. It's alarming to see what so many resort to in the quest for "beauty". Look at the current fade of sky-high cheekbones and balloon lips. Or the inflated balloons posing as breasts on Bezo's wife. Men do basically get a pass on appearance.
ReplyDeleteSandra: I know. Some of the faces women end up with in the name of being more sexy or beautiful or whatever are just embarrassing.
DeleteI'm fat because I stopped moving. When I used to walk 3 miles a day, I was skinny. You don't think much of it when you gain 3 pounds a year. But, do that for thirty years or so and one day...
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Linda: It's true. I try to do at least a 30 minute walk every day. If I ever have to give up walking I'm sure I would put on a few inches.
DeleteThere is a lot of shaming of every type in the world and being overweight is just one example. The way people dress or style their hair are other examples.
ReplyDeleteBeatrice: Yes, hairstyles attract a lot of odium. Too long, too short, weird colours, greasy etc.
DeleteWe live in a cruel world. They've been trying to change attitudes to size since I can remember, I doubt it will ever happen in my lifetime.
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Ms Scarlet: We do, and children can be just as nasty as adults. I agree, attitudes aren't going to change in our lifetimes.
DeleteI don't understand why certain people care what others look like. It must be awful to be so judgmental.
ReplyDeleteColette: And constantly judging other people must drain so much emotional energy.
DeleteOur society is sick.The meanist thing to judge other people. Weight or clothes or whatever depend on so many personal issues and who am I to give my opinion. Mobbing starts already in school for girls and also boys. I knew a little boy who committed suicide at the age of ten being a victim of daily mobbing in school. And who decides what is beautiful or ugly.
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Hannah: Our society is very sick in all sorts of ways, but that's another subject I guess. That's awful about the boy who killed himself. When I was young people would often say "Mind your own business". About time it was brought into daily use again.
DeleteI've grown a thick skin over the years because I've always been overweight. In the last couple of years I've lost 80 lbs but I did it for my health not to make anyone else happy. I would happily stay the size I am now but after finding out I have osteoporosis, it's better to lose a bit more weight for my health. So that's what I'm doing.
ReplyDeleteNo one should be shaming anyone else over what they look like though. That's crazy.
Mary: Losing 80 pounds is pretty good going. I hope you can get some relief from your various health conditions. And yes, shaming people for being overweight is cruel.
DeleteOr you could be naturally thin and have people accuse you of being anorexic. People will comment on your body no matter what it looks like.
ReplyDeleteBijoux: Someone once asked me if I was anorexic. That was at a time when I was about 10½ stone, about a stone under my ideal weight.
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