I might think of myself as having a rather nondescript appearance, while others see me as very distinctive. I might consider myself kind and considerate, while others think I'm somewhat mean and selfish. I might imagine I'm highly intelligent while others think I'm rather a dimwit.
Wouldn't it be interesting if I could step outside myself for 24 hours and see myself as others see me? Would it be a bit of a shock as my rosy picture of myself was rapidly demolished? Or would it be a pleasant surprise as I discovered I was more appealing than I thought I was? And would I be embarrassed by some of my daft remarks and clumsy gestures?
I might think someone has got me completely wrong, only to find out that actually they've caught the real me.
If only some of those public figures who think they're so wonderful could stand outside themselves and be confronted with the mortifying reality....
Oh my goodness, I don't want to think about it! If I truly witnessed myself, both in appearance and manner, I'd probably never leave the house again!
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Ms Scarlet: I doubt you're so off-putting. I'm sure I could easily spend a very enjoyable afternoon with you.
DeleteNick,
ReplyDeletepeople who will decide to make a therapy with a psychiatrist and only wanting to know themselves better, will so get a good idea by understanding their proper self .you can learn much about the image you give to the outside world .
Hannah
Hannah: I did have a few therapy sessions many years ago. I never had any more because I had more pressing financial needs.
DeleteAs Bobby Burns said:
ReplyDeleteO, wad some Power the giftie gie us
To see oursels as others see us!
It wad frae monie a blunder free us,
An' foolish notion.
Rick: Indeed, it would save us from many a blunder.
DeleteAnd certainly every person who meets you will have their own unique take on you, Nick.
ReplyDeleteBijoux: I guess they have. I can only hope it's fairly favourable.
DeleteI think we are very harsh on ourselves at times and don't see what others see in us.
ReplyDeleteMary: That's very true. We can be far too self-critical.
DeleteWhat I do know is people like me or they don't. I came to accept this a long time ago. I'm not sure I would get along with me!
ReplyDeleteSandra: People don't always get along with me either. I'm too much of an oddball! But I would say the same as you, people either like me or they don't.
DeleteFolks don't like me if they sense that I don't take society's agreed-upon-reality seriously. I don't want to be a spoil sport, but I just don't pretend very well. I just can't value having money, or a closed off social circle, or believing in excruciating propriety.
ReplyDeleteInstead, my peers and I believe like the singer Jewel saying, "In the end, only kindness matters."
Sean: Ditto, I often reject the agreed reality and that puts people off. Indeed, in the end kindness is is the only important thing.
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