Friday, 27 December 2024

Sailing along

As we get older we're supposed to get more and more indifferent to what others think of us and just go sailing happily along in our own little self-centred bubble.

I don't find that at all. If anything I'm more aware of what others think of me and more concerned that someone might have a negative opinion of me.

I think I was probably more indifferent to other people's view of me when I was a child. Children are notoriously oblivious to how people see them and casually blurt out anything that comes to mind. I'm sure I was just like that, causing offence and shock and disbelief everywhere I went.

Of course that's partly because children don't have much of a stake in their surroundings. They're not home owners worrying how the neighbours see them, or employees worrying how the boss sees them. They just do their thing in a state of blissful self-indulgence.

No, as I grow older I consider other people's reactions to what I say or do all the time. I certainly don't go blundering along upsetting everybody. Children may have the excuse of a tender age but an adult of 77 has no excuse whatever.

I watch all the politicians saying anything that occurs to them, however offensive or contemptuous or untrue and I wonder how they can bring themselves to be so recklessly outspoken. If only they could think before they speak, people might have a bit more respect for them.

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  1. As a child I was made aware of what was 'acceptable'....and I suppose that has stayed with me down the years, not rocking the social boat.

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    1. Helen: Yes, not rocking the social boat, that's the general principle.

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  2. I have a tendency to be direct. I live in a state known for its passive/aggressiveness. So...I reconciled myself to the fact that there generally is no middle ground, people like me or they don't. I don't go out of my way to offend people. I'm direct, not rude. The politicians of today in the US, some in particular, have no notion of decorum.

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    1. Sandra: I find the same, people either like me or they don't. I'm an acquired taste! I prefer people who're direct and not mealy-mouthed.

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  3. I believe as I have gotten older I just don't let people get to me. I simply avoid unpleasant people. They just are not worth it. I really don't care what people think of me but I always show common courtesy & act polite regardless of their behavior Just because I don't agree with them doesn't give me the right to be unpleasant or rude. Manners & courtesy go a long way with most folks.

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