Tuesday, 9 September 2014

Caught in the crush

I may be the grand old age of 67, but I still get crushes on people from time to time. Not as much as when I was younger, but they still happen.

Of course I'll never go to bed with them because (a) I'm happily married with no wish for extra-marital adventures; (b) they're usually a lot younger and wouldn't give me the time of day; (c) it would all get far too complicated. So it's never anything more than an entertaining secret fantasy.

I don't have any crushes on anyone right now, but I was very taken by one particular woman at the office block I work in. I looked forward to seeing her and chatting to her, and she probably wasn't aware that I saw her any differently from her workmates. After some months she moved to the States and rapidly faded from my mind.

I've written before about my huge crush on Elena (not her real name), a woman I worked with once in a bookshop when I was still single. Clearly she didn't have any special feelings towards me so absolutely nothing happened, but I would follow her every movement and utterance with heightened attention. I was obsessed with her for years until she also moved on and I never saw her again.

Long ago I had a passionate crush on a waitress at my lunch-time restaurant (that was when the working day still included a full lunch-hour). She had an incredibly sexy way of walking that always had me riveted. But as far as she knew, I was just the thin guy who ordered the omelette and chips and gave her a handsome tip. That time I moved on rather than her.

I've never actually dreamt about my crushes, except in Elena's case. It's usually strictly a daytime thing. And I would never flirt or stalk or do anything inappropriate. It's all in my mind and that's where it stays. Then again, did other people ever have crushes on me, I wonder? Was I ever crush-inducing material? If so, I never suspected and I shall never know.

16 comments:

John Gray said...

My latest crush is a twenty something , Russell Crowe lookalike vet
I am old enough to be his aging father
How sad am I

Nick said...

John: But it's such fun having a crush, isn't it, even if you know nothing's going to come of it. I bet lots of people have crushes on their vet. Or their doctor.

Keith said...

I'm ten years older than you Nick and I still have crushes now and then.

The present lady is about 30 and works in McDonalds, to me she is just perfection in womanhood. I go in most days, order a coffee and just sit and watch her. She is completely unaware of me (I hope). She comes over to me and whispers "Would you like a refill sir?" in her lovely sexy voice, and then I feel special because everyone else has to go to the counter to order. Perhaps it's my Zimmer frame that does it. . . .

Bijoux said...

I can only think of one person that has given me butterflies since I've been married. A former coworker of my husband, who actually lives in the same town as us now. I love everything about him, and my husband knows all about it! LOL....I just can't keep my admiration silent.

susie said...

I'm not spilling my crush guts on your blog!!

Nick said...

Keith: Perfection in womanhood? Is there such a thing? I'm not talking about perfection, just some particular quality that I can't get enough of.

Bijoux: Good that your husband knows all about it and isn't bothered. But then, he might have a few secret crushes of his own!

Susie: Ooh, such coyness!

CheerfulMonk said...

I love dogs and visit some blogs every day to see them, find out what they've been up to. Does that count?

Nick said...

Jean: A crush on dogs? Yes, of course that counts. And do you send them special gifts and birthday cards? And hang around their kennels all day?

Wisewebwoman said...

I'm in your club. Currently I have the most ridiculous crush on a man 15 years younger than me that I run into at occasional parties and he also plows my driveway in the winter ( leave that one alone, please Nick :) ).

Flutters in the belly. Every time.

XO
WWW

Nick said...

www: Funny, isn't it, how some people cause such emotional or sexual reverberations while others simply fade into the background? Long may your crush and the fluttering belly continue!

Secret Agent Woman said...

I don't think I get the obsessive sort of crush. Maybe there are folks I'm more flirtatious with because I find then appealing.

Nick said...

Agent: You don't? So if they don't respond to your flirting, that's that and you never dwell on them? Are you just not an obsessive sort of person?

bonsaimum said...

Nothing wrong with a secret crush, as long as it stays just that.

Nick said...

Bonsaimum: Exactly. As long as the crushee is not aware of the crush, and is not made to feel uncomfortable or "watched", where's the harm?

Jenny Woolf said...

Crushes always seem to me a harmless way of people entertaining themselves in dull moments. I think they're probably more common than we realise.

Nick said...

Jenny: Crushes are great fun. And yes, I'm sure they're much more common than we realise because of the inherent secrecy.