tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post256343990930236337..comments2024-03-28T07:49:04.960+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: In the shadowsnickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-90893525797677833972020-05-28T08:14:38.826+01:002020-05-28T08:14:38.826+01:00Joared: At my prep school all the different groups...Joared: At my prep school all the different groups got along with each other, but boarding school was different and there were very distinct "in" groups and "out" groups. As you say, in your case it must have helped that most pupils had known each other for quite a while.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-51642470925665871972020-05-28T00:56:40.332+01:002020-05-28T00:56:40.332+01:00I recall degrees of popularity at my school with t...I recall degrees of popularity at my school with the star athletes at the top followed by the girls who became their girlfriends. The rest of us kinda moved around in our own little social groups of varying size. We all seem to just accept the situation though I recall one girl floated between our little group and the popular set she aspired to joining. The rest of us didn’t care. All groups seem to get along with one another. Most had known each other since elementary school so some relationships had been forever. I didn’t come to that school until high school —my fourth school that year as we moved about the country. This was a rural area school, only one student in our class had a car. Wasn’t much socialization outside the actual school day so not your typical city or town classmates relationships. Joaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03155775053108104385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-38403582679760998572020-05-25T08:05:19.352+01:002020-05-25T08:05:19.352+01:00Agent: I always confuse sociopaths and psychopaths...Agent: I always confuse sociopaths and psychopaths, and I'm never entirely sure what the terms mean. All I know is, some total villains can hide their villainy very well!nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-70413396815829153842020-05-24T23:05:36.799+01:002020-05-24T23:05:36.799+01:00The popular crooks are sociopaths, and sociopaths ...The popular crooks are sociopaths, and sociopaths are notoriously charming.Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-38087827577227095552020-05-24T20:08:57.146+01:002020-05-24T20:08:57.146+01:00Ms Scarlet: As I said to Wisewebwoman, I wish I ha...Ms Scarlet: As I said to Wisewebwoman, I wish I had found a similar group of weirdos to hang around with!nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-72165856424083493872020-05-24T14:47:40.915+01:002020-05-24T14:47:40.915+01:00I was popular within my small group of geeks and o...I was popular within my small group of geeks and oddballs! But then again we all were with each other :-)<br />SxMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-17561193725663302452020-05-23T22:45:37.780+01:002020-05-23T22:45:37.780+01:00Fly: Me too - except for Jenny of course. Like you...Fly: Me too - except for Jenny of course. Like you, I don't like being in huge crowds of people. I much prefer an intimate one-to-one.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-9138203618492002372020-05-23T22:43:21.078+01:002020-05-23T22:43:21.078+01:00S&S: Indeed. I could only trace one person fro...S&S: Indeed. I could only trace one person from my boarding school. It looks like he did very well as a solicitor, and he also plays in a rock band.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-48836576419841087842020-05-23T22:41:07.574+01:002020-05-23T22:41:07.574+01:00Linda: No problem with paper products here. I woul...Linda: No problem with paper products here. I would find it hard to go back to smelly old hankies!nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-55193682877222757522020-05-23T21:09:14.002+01:002020-05-23T21:09:14.002+01:00Looking back I suppose I've always been a lone...Looking back I suppose I've always been a loner...I enjoy the company of friends...but not too many at once or too often!the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-21356515430925428282020-05-23T19:46:51.806+01:002020-05-23T19:46:51.806+01:00In this day of hard-to-find paper products. I have...In this day of hard-to-find paper products. I have returned to using hankies. In fact, there's a batch of them in our washing machine right now.Linda Sandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12734450335251336493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-62531700091937888172020-05-23T17:09:39.393+01:002020-05-23T17:09:39.393+01:00It can be quite interesting to look back to our sc...It can be quite interesting to look back to our school days and then fast forward to see what we all made of our lives, popular or not.SmitoniusAndSonatahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11210817141287881808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-55086040281027853402020-05-23T16:30:51.140+01:002020-05-23T16:30:51.140+01:00www: Sounds like you had a great time at school. I...www: Sounds like you had a great time at school. I wish I had found a similar group of weirdos to fall in with and have the same sort of fun. Yes, I guess by popular I mean something like cultish adulation or idolising.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-26165744324772101372020-05-23T16:09:20.284+01:002020-05-23T16:09:20.284+01:00Not being "popular" - i.e. included - ca...Not being "popular" - i.e. included - can result in low self-esteem and loneliness.<br /><br />I formed a team of "losers" when I was 12 at a private school where cliques and superiority reigned supreme and we had the most marvelous time in out own weird world. There were 6 of us and our reunion back in 2011 was a joy as we're still all weird but extraordinarily successful in so many ways. <br /><br />I never gave popularity much thought though. Maybe you're talking adulation of some kind? Like cultish behaviour?<br /><br />XO<br />WWW Wisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-1527978907534436572020-05-23T15:08:17.085+01:002020-05-23T15:08:17.085+01:00I found him and his wife, with that inane grin on ...I found him and his wife, with that inane grin on her face, odious.Pollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10502031456581056874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-15996198682150745242020-05-23T08:47:12.137+01:002020-05-23T08:47:12.137+01:00Ursula: How very unorthodox of you. No wonder your...Ursula: How very unorthodox of you. No wonder your teacher thought you'd lost it. If only other team leaders were that rebellious.<br /><br />I don't see many hankies these days. They went the way of waistcoats and cravats.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-12076577975520934492020-05-23T08:28:21.636+01:002020-05-23T08:28:21.636+01:00Jean: So you don't think about "popularit...Jean: So you don't think about "popularity" very much either! You're obviously very happy with your various interests.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-61394195586744185642020-05-23T08:26:10.638+01:002020-05-23T08:26:10.638+01:00Joanne: I don't usually contemplate it myself,...Joanne: I don't usually contemplate it myself, but I was reminded of it by Ramana's post on the same theme.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-1841451537791679812020-05-23T08:21:21.863+01:002020-05-23T08:21:21.863+01:00Linda: I was quite included at prep school but at ...Linda: I was quite included at prep school but at boarding school I was always on the sidelines. I lost touch with my school friends a long time ago, mainly because I've moved around so much.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-63475295917862550672020-05-23T07:13:15.958+01:002020-05-23T07:13:15.958+01:00My, my, Nick. Hand me a hankie. Your self assessme...My, my, Nick. Hand me a hankie. Your self assessment admirable in its self deprecating. You are what you are. And what I are is highly visible. I never sought it. It's just how it is.<br /><br />As to sports and coming last. Oh dear, Nick, I don't know how anyone bears it. It must be horrible to be the last chosen. In fact, and it wasn't lost on my PE teacher (though the first time I did it she looked at me as if I'd lost the plot) when I was one of two team leaders doing the choosing I'd deliberately choose the "losers" first. It was a win win (for me): The stars' jaws falling in disbelief, the (potential) losers' faces lighting up. It was lovely. And I swear, inverse psychology, that just by being chosen first (vote of confidence) they upped their game. Not that we'd necessarily win. But then I have always been more interested in the process rather than the end result.<br /><br />Greetings from Saint Ursula,<br />UUrsulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722046288685936851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-72334862899552238382020-05-23T00:33:54.538+01:002020-05-23T00:33:54.538+01:00I don't interact with people face-to-face much...I don't interact with people face-to-face much, but I don't think of myself as lurking in the shadows. I'm too busy playing with my toys and interacting with my online friends, often one-to-one so we can go into deeper conversations based on our common interests. CheerfulMonkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934008738777906970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-72956025531686034082020-05-23T00:24:08.417+01:002020-05-23T00:24:08.417+01:00Wow. Something I cannot remember contemplating sin...Wow. Something I cannot remember contemplating since I was twelve years old.Joanne Noragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16601010208310707750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-11846504759311616932020-05-22T22:24:56.962+01:002020-05-22T22:24:56.962+01:00I always thought I was invisible. I was surprised ...I always thought I was invisible. I was surprised when I looked back at my childhood and teen years to see how included I was. I'm still surprised when someone I haven't seen in years recognizes me.Linda Sandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12734450335251336493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-34720583604447142022020-05-22T21:40:33.592+01:002020-05-22T21:40:33.592+01:00Polly: I don't know about him being a spiv or ...Polly: I don't know about him being a spiv or a crook, though he certainly took some very negative decisions - like the Iraq War and introducing tuition fees. But I could think of better examples of out-and-out scoundrels!nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-41072610490021265762020-05-22T21:36:08.086+01:002020-05-22T21:36:08.086+01:00"I'm baffled as to why certain politician..."I'm baffled as to why certain politicians, for instance, are hugely popular even though they're clearly spivs and crooks of the first order." The first name that popped into my mind - Tony Blair.Pollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10502031456581056874noreply@blogger.com