tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post1334262217081828271..comments2024-03-28T07:49:04.960+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: Wild childnickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-51492315980849607962016-07-16T23:10:44.632+01:002016-07-16T23:10:44.632+01:00Agent: Fair enough!Agent: Fair enough!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-61767613362142480952016-07-16T22:56:00.412+01:002016-07-16T22:56:00.412+01:00I don't keep quiet because I'm embarrassed...I don't keep quiet because I'm embarrassed, I keep quiet because I don't want to embarrass my kids!Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-60756492908933787932016-07-16T22:31:29.644+01:002016-07-16T22:31:29.644+01:00Agent: I think parents tend to keep quiet about th...Agent: I think parents tend to keep quiet about their own wildnesses, which often they feel acutely embarrassed about. My own parents have never confessed to any wild behaviour, but there must have been some. They can't have been that saintly!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-90118088613174566612016-07-16T21:07:05.057+01:002016-07-16T21:07:05.057+01:00I think people who are transitioning out of someth...I think people who are transitioning out of something often have a strong reaction to whatever the original thing was - repressive school, strict parents, etc. Or post-divorce, as in my case. I think my kids would be wigged out by things I've done, but then again, I'd probably be wigged out by things my own parents have done. Probably just as well we don't generally have access to that information.Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-43542174900379608552016-07-13T08:31:51.765+01:002016-07-13T08:31:51.765+01:00Tammy: Strict but fair, and you felt safe and love...Tammy: Strict but fair, and you felt safe and loved. That sounds good to me.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-3738546549087782182016-07-12T23:43:55.172+01:002016-07-12T23:43:55.172+01:00you made me stop and think a bit nick.
I think mot...you made me stop and think a bit nick.<br />I think mother was a buffer for him.<br />she was total warmth and fun.<br />an auntie mame.<br />and he made me feel safe and loved.<br />there are men who are strict and it's cruel. he was never cruel.<br />he was extremely fair. he expected a lot. but he expected the same from himself as well.<br />you found yourself wanting his respect. that's all.<br />his story is incredible. it's called <br />'the good ones... jim reed' <br />it will explain a lot! :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-10691865747389224632016-07-12T17:14:36.161+01:002016-07-12T17:14:36.161+01:00Tammy: Very sad that your dad died so young, but f...Tammy: Very sad that your dad died so young, but fortunate that you could then marry without his objecting. He might never have forgiven you for eloping. Interesting that you adored his strictness!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-29108233744078143452016-07-12T15:46:41.621+01:002016-07-12T15:46:41.621+01:00I agree with monk. it was healthy for you to go wi...I agree with monk. it was healthy for you to go wild.<br />it was like letting a prisoner out of a cage. and you were literally a prisoner.<br />what a horrible school.<br />I have always been partial to prince charles. he also went to a horrible school it seems. and he had to endure the fact that he was friendless due to his 'royal' situation. it must have been awful.<br />I had an extremely strict father.<br />but I adored him.<br />and about the time I would normally rebel ... at 17 ... he died suddenly.<br />that fact seemed to have put a lid on all of that. grief intervened.<br />I did however marry at 19 and to a man 10 yrs older. and no. <br />he was not a father figure. he was nothing like my father!<br />it was a wonderful marriage and it NEVER would have been allowed had my father been alive. <br />or... then... maybe I would have gotten a wild streak and eloped!<br />we'll never know.<br />like ursula said. it's great to know you even better nick.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-87712155034977723752016-07-11T21:27:50.476+01:002016-07-11T21:27:50.476+01:00Hattie: I imagine San Francisco at that time was s...Hattie: I imagine San Francisco at that time was so chock-a-block with hippies and beautiful people and dopeheads and all the rest of it, the attraction must have worn off pretty quickly if you weren't in tune with it. Personally I was never that taken by drugs or promiscuity or communal living. I loved the music and art and books and radical politics though.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-91562986452210716992016-07-11T19:45:49.604+01:002016-07-11T19:45:49.604+01:00Imagine what it's like in the U.S. with all th...Imagine what it's like in the U.S. with all the unregulated "faith based" schools, charter schools, home schooling and so on. <br />I'm from San Francisco and was through with the "scene" by the mid 60s. I thought the "summer of love" was a farce. It had no glamor for me. I don't even care for the music that much any more. Hattiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13297404386730167834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-38751084260146354292016-07-11T19:32:06.870+01:002016-07-11T19:32:06.870+01:00Bijoux: Faith schools have a lot to answer for, as...Bijoux: Faith schools have a lot to answer for, as Wise Web Woman can confirm from her own childhood. I think the number of faith schools in the UK is actually increasing.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-89797542428738946322016-07-11T19:27:22.687+01:002016-07-11T19:27:22.687+01:00Yes!Yes!Bijouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05788630004051883635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-36050490426848873602016-07-11T14:46:55.966+01:002016-07-11T14:46:55.966+01:00Scarlet: Get away. I picture you as a total tearaw...Scarlet: Get away. I picture you as a total tearaway, rebelling vigorously against a genteel suburban upbringing and a strait-laced convent school.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-43760672393729452252016-07-11T13:50:46.573+01:002016-07-11T13:50:46.573+01:00I remember nothing. I was too pissed.
SxI remember nothing. I was too pissed.<br />SxMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-57714309338457833862016-07-10T19:08:45.485+01:002016-07-10T19:08:45.485+01:00Mia: I envy your liberal education, mine was very ...Mia: I envy your liberal education, mine was very traditional and uninspiring. True that we need to escape the daily routine sometimes and let our hair down a bit. And yes, life is short and if there is something unusual we want to do, we should just get on with it!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-54828708431367537822016-07-10T18:44:05.850+01:002016-07-10T18:44:05.850+01:00My parents belong to the 1968 generation . 16 year...My parents belong to the 1968 generation . 16 years old my mum and 18 my dad in 1972.I got a very liberal education, so no real need to be a wild child. But nevertheless I made a lot of crazy things and still do this sometimes today. I think we need all to break out from the daily routine life fRom tim to time. Life is short and we got only one. So responsibilty most of time and a bit of fun to breathe.<br />Mia MoreAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-7029669097274060052016-07-10T14:41:22.377+01:002016-07-10T14:41:22.377+01:00Bijoux: Very much so. If you treat someone roughly...Bijoux: Very much so. If you treat someone roughly and callously, then don't be surprised if they turn angry, violent and unpredictable. I wasn't familiar with parochial schools - basically Catholic schools and all that implies?Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-21824363399574555872016-07-10T13:06:23.042+01:002016-07-10T13:06:23.042+01:00I agree with Ursula. Behavior is often times a rea...I agree with Ursula. Behavior is often times a reaction to how one is disciplined or treated. My husband and I always comment that the worst people we ever met went to parochial schools. Ha!Bijouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05788630004051883635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-15269944356369806152016-07-10T09:19:25.491+01:002016-07-10T09:19:25.491+01:00Jean: It was very healthy. I explored all the part...Jean: It was very healthy. I explored all the parts of me that were heavily repressed at school and meant I became a more mature and complete and self-aware adult.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-75949387379181993792016-07-10T09:17:28.194+01:002016-07-10T09:17:28.194+01:00Ursula: I guess a lot of youngsters simply can'...Ursula: I guess a lot of youngsters simply can't believe what went on in the sixties and seventies. It seems so wild compared with today's rather strait-laced emphasis on getting a degree, getting a job, paying off debts etc.<br /><br />I agree, I think children who're kept on a tight rein do tend to lose the plot when the tight rein is removed. They have little sense of normal boundaries and social rules. And yes, a lot of the manic tearaways morphed into something more subdued later on, as they realised they didn't have to be so full-on the whole time.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-87913726628492710162016-07-10T05:26:52.563+01:002016-07-10T05:26:52.563+01:00You had a perfectly normal reaction once you left ...You had a perfectly normal reaction once you left that boarding school, and experimenting like that is healthy, I think. Thank you for sharing that part of your life story. CheerfulMonkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934008738777906970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-64230568854357614362016-07-09T22:57:11.933+01:002016-07-09T22:57:11.933+01:00Your account - and that of your school days makes ...Your account - and that of your school days makes my heart go out to you - does confirm a long held opinion of mine. Namely, that it's always the ones who were kept on a short and tight rein who totally lose the plot when they are off the leash.<br /><br />I had a most liberal upbringing (as did the Angel) albeit with a strong ethical and moral code and what do you know - I wasn't a wild child. I had nothing to prove. Whilst I was renowned to roll a mean joint for my friends I was the one who never smoked it. I like to know what I am doing. Haze and fog are of no interest to me.<br /><br />The truly interesting aspect, not least as hinted by John here and in his comment on his original blog post, is perception. So, yes, from today's perspective it might seem surprising that at one point in your life Nick was a bit of a wild child. Now? However, and I don't know whether this is of comfort or downright irritating, fact is that the wildest of my wild friends metamorphosed into - I don't know - ... something rather sedate. Try and tell their kids what their father/mother was really like. They look at you in amazement, nay disbelief. Parents' double standards and all that.<br /><br />Main thing, Nick, it's great to learn more about you, your background. Anecdotes of the past are good - both for the soul and helping friends you make later in life catch up with you.<br /><br />UUrsulahttp://bitchontheblog.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-44120712504905647702016-07-09T21:08:52.674+01:002016-07-09T21:08:52.674+01:00John: It's a funny old world.John: It's a funny old world.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-63440278046020047002016-07-09T18:23:11.433+01:002016-07-09T18:23:11.433+01:00Well fancy thatWell fancy thatJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-91490878489598183032016-07-09T17:42:32.724+01:002016-07-09T17:42:32.724+01:00Ramana: A disciplined life is okay, but this was a...Ramana: A disciplined life is okay, but this was absurdly over-disciplined. The school simply didn't trust us with any vestige of autonomy. The world was certainly a different place then - going increasingly to the left, just as now it's going increasingly to the right.<br /><br />Dave: It is hard to imagine, isn't it? A girlfriend and I once had sex in the middle of Hyde Park, believe it or not. What were we thinking of? Actually I think people don't necessarily get more staid as they get older, they may just be better at hiding their bad behaviour.Nicknoreply@blogger.com