tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post9118905011418794228..comments2024-03-28T07:49:04.960+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: Cryingnickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-3676598729983405632008-05-15T18:23:00.000+01:002008-05-15T18:23:00.000+01:00Geraldine - I didn't realise the Irish were reserv...Geraldine - I didn't realise the Irish were reserved about big emotions, as I only moved to Ireland eight years ago. That surprises me as I know funerals and wakes are really major Irish events. I've never learnt to fully express grief, but maybe one day if I'm hit by a really awful loss it'll all come out....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-22537985288904262008-05-15T15:52:00.000+01:002008-05-15T15:52:00.000+01:00I'm very reserved about crying - in my family it w...I'm very reserved about crying - in my family it was just as frowned on for women as for men. In fact most of us Irish are very reserved about really important emotions - we don't show grief and pain that easily, we try to play it down. Like you Nick, I've stood at graves and not been able to cry.<BR/>In the last couple of years I learnt to let it out when really hurt - but I still would be very slow to cry in public.Geraldine Moorkens Byrnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01028922062605420928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-62543472226735918842008-04-27T07:12:00.000+01:002008-04-27T07:12:00.000+01:00Heart - That's terrible, saying you'd be spanked j...Heart - That's terrible, saying you'd be spanked just for crying. Yes, I'm that way as well - I'll cry sometimes over a tragedy in the news or a film but in my own life the same sort of tragedy leaves me dry-eyed. Odd.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-29125920716372202812008-04-26T23:45:00.000+01:002008-04-26T23:45:00.000+01:00No, actually it's the opposite. I was often told ...No, actually it's the opposite. I was often told as a child that I would be spanked until I stopped crying, which seemed strange to me even then, but I learned not to cry.<BR/><BR/>With the exception of my children's graduations and one wedding so far, I tend to do my crying on the inside. I am more likely to cry over sad news stories or movies than over my own life and also envy women who are able to shed cleansing tears easily.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-77331894859402113162008-04-26T08:14:00.000+01:002008-04-26T08:14:00.000+01:00Heart, that's mysterious, I don't remember seeing ...Heart, that's mysterious, I don't remember seeing your comment at all. My comments on other people's blogs have sometimes vanished after I okayed them so maybe that's what happened. Let me guess - you're a cryer but not a softy??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-84563050472181976382008-04-26T00:52:00.000+01:002008-04-26T00:52:00.000+01:00How strange. I remember commenting to this post a...How strange. I remember commenting to this post a few days ago, but Blogger must have deleted it.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-32661463473503444442008-04-25T08:50:00.000+01:002008-04-25T08:50:00.000+01:00www - That's unusual, delayed crying. Other people...www - That's unusual, delayed crying. Other people must be curious when you suddenly burst into tears for no apparent reason! And I'm no better at private crying than public crying, I'm sorry to say.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-2423122083690648522008-04-25T03:02:00.000+01:002008-04-25T03:02:00.000+01:00I'm really weird on the tears thing, Nick. I don't...I'm really weird on the tears thing, Nick. I don't cry immediately, it is like I freeze, my father like yours absolutely forbade crying or if we were caught he would "give us something to cry about".<BR/>BUT the emotion lies in wait for me and at completely awkward and embarrassing moments I burst into tears when everyone else is done with them. Like the middle of a restaurant or on a plane, etc.<BR/>I cry a lot privately, however. I recommend it, highly therapeutic.<BR/>XO<BR/>WWW<BR/>And I have an award for you over at my blog...Wisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-62387064375144141162008-04-23T22:16:00.000+01:002008-04-23T22:16:00.000+01:00Matt, that's a shame that you're crying less. Mayb...Matt, that's a shame that you're crying less. Maybe masculine peer pressure is subtly affecting you and building up inhibitions? Perhaps some crying support groups are called for??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-33052990055373460132008-04-23T22:06:00.000+01:002008-04-23T22:06:00.000+01:00Tough one Nick. I think I'll go try to have a good...Tough one Nick. I think I'll go try to have a good cry; I used to find it easier, but in the past few years I can't bring myself to it. What happened, I wonder. Is it because few things surprise me anymore, or have I become too effective at bottling my emotions? Good luck getting the Bushies to admit mistakes or otherwise display maturity or other redeeming qualities...Matthewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08523756391728610399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-44077431720377739482008-04-23T09:46:00.000+01:002008-04-23T09:46:00.000+01:00Con, no probs, I think it's Blogger's fault not yo...Con, no probs, I think it's Blogger's fault not yours. Here's a wonderful vision for you: George Bush weeping uncontrollably saying he felt such remorse over starting the Iraq War. Aides handing him tissue after tissue, putting their arms round him etc. The mind boggles....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-59154621900698684992008-04-23T06:57:00.000+01:002008-04-23T06:57:00.000+01:00sorry - I can never remember how to make a proper ...sorry - I can never remember how to make a proper link :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-34518790925392463132008-04-22T23:29:00.000+01:002008-04-22T23:29:00.000+01:00Baino - Just let it go? If only I could. It's like...Baino - Just let it go? If only I could. It's like a computer programme I've lost the password to. Can somebody remind me what it is....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-6637348453768031872008-04-22T22:08:00.000+01:002008-04-22T22:08:00.000+01:00I rarely cry unless it's through frustration or an...I rarely cry unless it's through frustration or anger. I've become a little desensitised to sadness which in itself is very sad. I'm with Grannymar, I think we get more teary as we get older (impact of hormones perhaps) and don't care to much who sees it. As for the office, burst into tears and the bullies back off, I just wish I could do it on demand.<BR/><BR/>No need for onions boys, just let it go! You really do feel much better afterwards even if you look like rusty poo!Bainohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156193098088048637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-38385962667744166312008-04-22T20:51:00.000+01:002008-04-22T20:51:00.000+01:00Conor - Your link was cut short. The last bit shou...Conor - Your link was cut short. The last bit should be men_cry_an_average_of_nine_tim.php<BR/><BR/>Very interesting item. It points out that young boys actually cry MORE than young girls but that's gradually bred out of them. Women cry on average 33 times a year, which seems rather low to me - less than 3 times a month??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-33440716691063846122008-04-22T20:43:00.000+01:002008-04-22T20:43:00.000+01:00Dave - Anger, that's another thing altogether. My ...Dave - Anger, that's another thing altogether. My father was so terrifyingly bad-tempered I vowed at the age of 10 never ever to get angry the way he did. And I haven't. But I don't think controlling anger is unhealthy in the same way as not crying. Maybe I'm wrong but I see so many people carried away by blistering anger who don't seem to feel any better for it - they just get angry about more and more things.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-37265629839222001732008-04-22T20:36:00.000+01:002008-04-22T20:36:00.000+01:00'never do cry...get choked up, but never spills ov...'never do cry...get choked up, but never spills over.<BR/><BR/>My father and uncle were never ones to lose their temper. They had every other emotion, but I always admired how, no matter how frustrated they were, then never went beyond 'stern'. Despite the notion that it's better for your health to just let the anger out and be done with it, it never seemed to cause them trouble. I'm not sure that it's common to control anger in the same way these days.Dave Hamptonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04756506577756946937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-24234912221620860422008-04-22T19:57:00.000+01:002008-04-22T19:57:00.000+01:00Red, even if you do cry too easily, from where I'm...Red, even if you do cry too easily, from where I'm standing that's greatly preferable to being too inhibited to cry and express your emotions freely.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-86789683819626636662008-04-22T18:36:00.000+01:002008-04-22T18:36:00.000+01:00I can't believe you envy women their ability to cr...I can't believe you envy women their ability to cry easily. If there was one thing I could change about myself it would be fact that I cry so easily...redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03811068181187396326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-64449200967331015902008-04-22T17:08:00.000+01:002008-04-22T17:08:00.000+01:00FG - Good to hear your mighty hunk of a father cri...FG - Good to hear your mighty hunk of a father cried readily! Yes, being able to cry easily is very much taken for granted.<BR/><BR/>Quickie - Even a few drinks don't loosen the tears in my case. But you're right, crying releases a lot of buried emotion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-90372888278927024702008-04-22T16:46:00.000+01:002008-04-22T16:46:00.000+01:00I get closer to my inner self and drop my guard or...I get closer to my inner self and drop my guard or drop the fasade if you like after a few drinks. I have often wanted to cry but couldn't - It's also supposed to be good for you to empty out the pent up suppressed emotions - must go cut some onions pronto!Paddy in BA (Quickroute)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12748161252400814925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-84253842217226782232008-04-22T16:26:00.000+01:002008-04-22T16:26:00.000+01:00I come from a family of criers. During the father...I come from a family of criers. During the father-daughter dance at my wedding, my dad cried so hard I had to hold him up (he is 6ft4 and the size of a house). With that as a role model, I have never believed it to be un-masculine to cry. <BR/><BR/>I often feel like a soppy git when I tear-up. From now on I will just be grateful for ability to do so, something I suppose I have taken for granted.Fate's Granddaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02191929279542707748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-9483044594118730362008-04-22T13:25:00.000+01:002008-04-22T13:25:00.000+01:00Conor, nine times a year is impressive. For me it'...Conor, nine times a year is impressive. For me it's more like two. Good to know you're a big softy. Actually I can be a big softy too (Jenny often calls me a slopbag), it just doesn't show itself in tears.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-1592950606356438942008-04-22T11:18:00.000+01:002008-04-22T11:18:00.000+01:00funny I was going to post about crying at some poi...funny I was going to post about crying at some point after reading this article http://www.dutchnews.nl/news/archives/2008/04/men_cry_an_average_of_nine_tim.php it seems on average men cry nine times a year. I definitely beat that figure easily but I'm a great big softy :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-28106280788053813842008-04-22T10:55:00.000+01:002008-04-22T10:55:00.000+01:00Muddy, that's beautiful, I wish I could do that.Muddy, that's beautiful, I wish I could do that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com