tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post8752396858074908998..comments2024-03-28T07:49:04.960+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: Flimsy memoriesnickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-55798738459895896582010-03-21T22:36:39.024+00:002010-03-21T22:36:39.024+00:00Kate - I know, we're all convinced our version...Kate - I know, we're all convinced our version is the correct one. How could someone else remember it so differently?Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-24075732954269815352010-03-21T22:09:41.581+00:002010-03-21T22:09:41.581+00:00Its funny isn't it ..... everybody thinks they...Its funny isn't it ..... everybody thinks they remember certain things - yet they've all seen it from a different angle. My brother has a rose tinted memory and who am I to disillusion him? I just smile and nod!!<br /><br />I hope I get like that one day!Katehttp://www.iramble.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-78638421575022384522010-03-15T13:45:29.318+00:002010-03-15T13:45:29.318+00:00Brighid - I'm sure all those memories are stor...Brighid - I'm sure all those memories are stored away somewhere, it's just that they're impossible to retrieve. It's like a locked filing cabinet.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-37227146650840555662010-03-15T09:47:56.330+00:002010-03-15T09:47:56.330+00:00There are whole periods of my life that have been ...There are whole periods of my life that have been blanks, it has always been so for me. I don't understand it as it's not as if they were bad times. Geez could it be a form of youthful dementia?Brighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11299215170393879517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-12312521106296553352010-03-14T21:49:10.641+00:002010-03-14T21:49:10.641+00:00Megan - I can believe it! But I think Jenny and I ...Megan - I can believe it! But I think Jenny and I could agree about that. We met in a London bookshop where I was already working and she was a dishy new employee!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-78126161276530188442010-03-14T21:38:14.866+00:002010-03-14T21:38:14.866+00:00Just last night my folks got in a tiff about, of a...Just last night my folks got in a tiff about, of all things, how they MET. I wasn't there but my sister kept having to leave the room to text me about it.<br /><br />Yikes!Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09387041422819664987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-86181977895511667332010-03-14T21:07:05.611+00:002010-03-14T21:07:05.611+00:00Baino - Snap! I'm always walking out of the fr...Baino - Snap! I'm always walking out of the front door and then remembering something I should have come out with. And the same with forgotten concerts, books, movies, you name it!<br /><br />Liz - Me too. The number of times I've disagreed with someone about what really happened on such and such an occasion....Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-88878178595386345872010-03-14T18:24:13.646+00:002010-03-14T18:24:13.646+00:00I'd hadn't seen the cousin I'd grown u...I'd hadn't seen the cousin I'd grown up with for years and when we met she talked about a past that was alien to me. 'You've got it wrong,' I wanted to say, but maybe both of us were seeing it from our own perspectives.<br /><br />You're right: memories are unreliable.Liz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-67651283103694493542010-03-14T18:02:06.002+00:002010-03-14T18:02:06.002+00:00Ah the old 'selective' memory. I am hopele...Ah the old 'selective' memory. I am hopeless. Great long term memory, crap short term memory. I used to think it was old age creeping in then I watch my daughter regularly walk back into the house after departing because she's forgotten something and I feel a little vindicated. I remember arguing with my brother black and blue that I hadn't seen a particular rock band back in the 90's eventually it clicked. I'd sat through a U2 concert and completely forgotten!Bainohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156193098088048637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-76556709090760796112010-03-14T09:42:22.105+00:002010-03-14T09:42:22.105+00:00Ramana - Yes, my mum does that sometimes, when I r...Ramana - Yes, my mum does that sometimes, when I recall some parenting blunder or something disappointing about my childhood. She denies it ever occurred. She just won't admit she did anything wrong.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-79910010945485743052010-03-14T07:54:33.540+00:002010-03-14T07:54:33.540+00:00I meant that our memory is useful to us when it is...I meant that our memory is useful to us when it is convenient to do so and not otherwise. In the process of using such content, one can of course either deny totally something that had happened, add to it or reduce it in some way to suit a particular purpose. Let me give an example. When I draw the attention of my father to some unpleasant things that happened in my childhood, he flatly denies them and says he does not remember them whereas I have distinct recollection of those incidents.Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-67866931498081970322010-03-14T07:48:30.391+00:002010-03-14T07:48:30.391+00:00hi nickhi nickkyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-53109489323440056162010-03-13T17:17:34.362+00:002010-03-13T17:17:34.362+00:00Ramana - Sorry about the lost comment. Blogger is ...Ramana - Sorry about the lost comment. Blogger is still misbehaving though comments usually pop up eventually. By convenience do you mean whether it's convenient to pay proper attention to something or whether it's convenient to remember it afterwards?<br /><br />www - I think you knew me when I was shortlisted for the 2008 awards. I did't win though!<br /><br />Leah - Glad to know I'm not the only one with this weird jumble of quasi-memories....Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-45509130170830876672010-03-13T16:02:51.664+00:002010-03-13T16:02:51.664+00:00This one really hit home! What Meno said--that'...This one really hit home! What Meno said--that's me all over. And yes, as you say, my memory is a wacky melange of fact, fiction, fantasy, and scenes from movies misremembered as my own life...Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14061893047279652658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-44649083010531751602010-03-13T15:44:59.822+00:002010-03-13T15:44:59.822+00:00"Ah," I'll be saying, "I knew N..."Ah," I'll be saying, "I knew Nick back when, before he was shortlisted for the Irish Blog Awards 2010."<br /><br />YOU GO NICK!!<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-53039145900450525312010-03-13T14:22:46.910+00:002010-03-13T14:22:46.910+00:00Strange, this time, the comment has beeen publishe...Strange, this time, the comment has beeen published! Some quirk I suppose.Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-64132157895123474232010-03-13T14:21:56.898+00:002010-03-13T14:21:56.898+00:00Nick, I posted a comment a while ago to the effect...Nick, I posted a comment a while ago to the effect that memories are conditioned by convenience and the problem is in handling resentments. That has not been published. Have you put in moderation?Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-39653109915218870892010-03-13T08:18:35.791+00:002010-03-13T08:18:35.791+00:00www - Indeed, different perceptions lead to very d...www - Indeed, different perceptions lead to very different memories. And how much of that perception is interpretation rather than fact - like people's expressions?<br /><br />e - True, degree of attentiveness and interest are also relevant. Yes, a photographic memory can be infuriating, but it can also be a godsend if you need to remember something vital in a crisis!<br /><br />Meno - Ah yes, I've been through that many times! And vice versa of course.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-630083010246060402010-03-13T00:28:03.127+00:002010-03-13T00:28:03.127+00:00i get in a lot of trouble for misremembering somet...i get in a lot of trouble for misremembering something my spouse said that he thought was really important.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-8405389412202232922010-03-12T23:41:03.439+00:002010-03-12T23:41:03.439+00:00There are a combination of factors at work here. O...There are a combination of factors at work here. One is memory, the other is perception and still another is whether we choose to attend to details, what details those are and the importance we attach to them...<br /><br />My mum always said I have a memory like an elephant, so I guess I'm one of the infuriating lot you've remarked on here...ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-16628760480474499852010-03-12T23:38:56.579+00:002010-03-12T23:38:56.579+00:00What fascinates me Nick is how my 5siblings and I ...What fascinates me Nick is how my 5siblings and I remember incidents growing up in totally different ways. The power of different perceptions on the same event.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-17770996932799496332010-03-12T21:06:15.377+00:002010-03-12T21:06:15.377+00:00Grannymar - That too! The number of times I go ups...Grannymar - That too! The number of times I go upstairs and then can't remember what I'm upstairs for....<br /><br />Megan - Those people with photographic memories (my father had one) are truly infuriating. And I suspect they really do remember it all accurately. Most embarrassing when my father was recalling some horrible misdeed of mine 15 years previously.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-10764611815607552212010-03-12T20:52:09.462+00:002010-03-12T20:52:09.462+00:00Oh yes indeed. I agree on all points!
One of my ...Oh yes indeed. I agree on all points!<br /><br />One of my old high school pals is a freak. She remembers EVERYTHING. Or at least, she makes it sound like she does. I can't tell a story without her amending it in some way. <br /><br />You should hear my parents when they get going. "That never happened" is a regular refrain at any family function!Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09387041422819664987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-53777275618456949442010-03-12T20:26:19.249+00:002010-03-12T20:26:19.249+00:00I remember what happened last week, but what was I...I remember what happened last week, but what was I doing five minutes ago?????Grannymarhttp://grannymar.com/blognoreply@blogger.com