tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post6913325770513955271..comments2024-03-28T07:49:04.960+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: The final strawnickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-59672324915797025442017-02-18T22:13:12.853+00:002017-02-18T22:13:12.853+00:00Jenny: Certainly it was pure luck that we had so m...Jenny: Certainly it was pure luck that we had so many similar attitudes and habits. We might have found we were fighting each other over all those things!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-82461786899606766352017-02-18T22:06:44.104+00:002017-02-18T22:06:44.104+00:00I suppose it is partly good luck, i.e. actually me...I suppose it is partly good luck, i.e. actually meeting the right person - and partly the many qualities you have listed above which certainly hit the nail on the head. Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-21636956770132406942017-02-14T09:22:44.470+00:002017-02-14T09:22:44.470+00:00Hattie: Yes, it must be a great comfort to have yo...Hattie: Yes, it must be a great comfort to have your husband beside you when you're facing a serious medical emergency.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-90672401517139868172017-02-14T08:31:44.080+00:002017-02-14T08:31:44.080+00:00My husband and I have been married for 52 years. W...My husband and I have been married for 52 years. We have children and grandchildren and have built a good life for ourselves. <br />A health crisis is bearable to me with my husband at my side. Hattiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13297404386730167834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-56283818010442561462017-02-13T17:36:00.546+00:002017-02-13T17:36:00.546+00:00Maria: There's a lot of truth in that, toughin...Maria: There's a lot of truth in that, toughing it out despite everything. Certainly there have been times when I've thought Jenny and I were heading for the buffers, but we persevered and things got better.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-62355989246556394402017-02-13T16:27:22.339+00:002017-02-13T16:27:22.339+00:00I'm delighted for you both and wish you many m...I'm delighted for you both and wish you many more years together. I do believe, though, that a lot of it has to do with just making your mind up to tough it out no matter what. And that's it. I'm with my husband 30 years now, married for 22. And the kids? They are a force which sometimes drives us apart yet they are also the glue which keeps us together. So I don't know.....Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09977676093756206414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-24284440970181453362017-02-13T16:08:11.472+00:002017-02-13T16:08:11.472+00:00Ramana: Ha, absence makes the heart grow fonder! Y...Ramana: Ha, absence makes the heart grow fonder! Yes, it probably helped that you were travelling a lot and weren't under Urmeela's feet too much! Nothing wrong with a bit of scrapping though, as long as there's not an edge to it. Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-28999894901816768442017-02-13T15:55:00.755+00:002017-02-13T15:55:00.755+00:00My side of the family always thought that it was b...My side of the family always thought that it was because I was a travelling sales person that my marriage lasted as long as it did - forty years though Urmeela's family thought that her profession kept her busy and away from scrapping with me! One can never tell what makes relationships last or break up. The best books cannot offer one solution for all problems that arise.Rummuserhttp://rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-91377267714544149812017-02-13T15:53:24.600+00:002017-02-13T15:53:24.600+00:00John: I'd be equally offended by that. Reminds...John: I'd be equally offended by that. Reminds me of a woman friend who invited me to the pub to celebrate my birthday, and then ignored me to chat to her other friends. I gave her the cold shoulder from then on.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-61353662431892298112017-02-13T15:50:36.714+00:002017-02-13T15:50:36.714+00:00www: Well, relationships are never really "ha...www: Well, relationships are never really "happy ever after", are they? Jenny and I have had plenty of ups and downs. Sometimes we're wonderfully happy, sometimes we're totally pissed off. We all run the spectrum of emotions, don't we?<br /><br />I don't understand how relationships like the one you mention can work. But as others have said, every relationship has its own secret and its own unique dynamic. Who can say one is better than another?Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-52937125181946493522017-02-13T15:41:25.470+00:002017-02-13T15:41:25.470+00:00Thinking of my last " bad" relationship
...Thinking of my last " bad" relationship<br /><br />The final straw? He ignoring me when visiting his father in hospital.....<br />That lack of respect was the last resort John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-787278278509730992017-02-13T15:28:19.567+00:002017-02-13T15:28:19.567+00:00I don't "do" the happy ever after re...I don't "do" the happy ever after relationship thing.I'm not built for it. Too independent in thinking and lifestyle. Though I have tried. 😊However I'm in that odd situation where couples do confide in me and the truly incredible ones to me are the long terms where one partner is gay and the other isn't.<br />Loads of fodder for a book on this.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-67443675376549661322017-02-13T14:09:27.422+00:002017-02-13T14:09:27.422+00:00Helen: A lot of men still seem to get their basic ...Helen: A lot of men still seem to get their basic identity from work. So as you say, they dread retirement because they'll suddenly be nobody. But wouldn't this make them LESS likely to divorce because they're more dependent on their wives boosting their identity?Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-58465342459201795342017-02-13T13:37:38.077+00:002017-02-13T13:37:38.077+00:00I wonder whether the late-in-life divorces come ab...I wonder whether the late-in-life divorces come about when the working partner retires...<br />When Leo was working on the Stock Exchange the old boys dreaded retirement and having to be at home full time - they would have worked for nothing to be able to continue their routine.helen devriesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-89954687742367185712017-02-13T12:38:04.575+00:002017-02-13T12:38:04.575+00:00Bijoux: That's terrific. Long may it continue!...Bijoux: That's terrific. Long may it continue!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-13681473595728746932017-02-13T11:36:08.828+00:002017-02-13T11:36:08.828+00:00I'm just thankful for my own 33 year relations...I'm just thankful for my own 33 year relationship. It's sort of a miracle!Bijouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05788630004051883635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-41467169464213582532017-02-13T10:06:38.365+00:002017-02-13T10:06:38.365+00:00Note to self: remember Mia's green eyes.Note to self: remember Mia's green eyes.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-87995678357930067682017-02-13T10:05:09.969+00:002017-02-13T10:05:09.969+00:00Mia: So I did. You see what a terrible memory I ha...Mia: So I did. You see what a terrible memory I have. I'll forget my own name next. You'll probably remind me again in a week or so....Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-88293290489835918342017-02-13T08:07:12.466+00:002017-02-13T08:07:12.466+00:00You forgot it. In your post about glamour, I wrot...You forgot it. In your post about glamour, I wrote already about my green eyes and you asked for a pic. Lol<br />Mia MoreAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-24139068285919064412017-02-13T07:44:00.374+00:002017-02-13T07:44:00.374+00:00Ursula: Very true, each marriage has its secret an...Ursula: Very true, each marriage has its secret and each divorce ditto. Some marriages actually seem to thrive on affairs, or jealousy, or endless bickering.<br /><br />Jean: Agreed, if each partner has their own friends and interests, that enriches the relationship. Spending too much time with each other can sometimes be stultifying.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-68419305105905730472017-02-13T07:36:50.664+00:002017-02-13T07:36:50.664+00:00Mia: I agree, difference is healthy. Who would wan...Mia: I agree, difference is healthy. Who would want a partner who simply echoes all your own opinions and tastes? What an awful thought! So now I know you have green eyes....<br /><br />Agent: Hey, I didn't say people ought to reveal all the petty details, only that in general they preferred not to. And yes, I'm sure there are all sort of stumbling blocks other than the ones I mentioned. And yes also, what works for one couple may not work for another.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-18056806334940745982017-02-13T05:43:59.764+00:002017-02-13T05:43:59.764+00:00For us parallel play is important. We do some thi...For us parallel play is important. We do some things together and both have our own projects, too. We never get bored or have trouble finding things to talk about.CheerfulMonkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934008738777906970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-26865035994360850502017-02-13T00:39:44.302+00:002017-02-13T00:39:44.302+00:00I agree with Secret Agent.
There is that saying ...I agree with Secret Agent. <br /><br />There is that saying that each marriage has their own secret, impenetrable to an outsider. You might as well apply the same to a couple's parting of ways.<br /><br />UUrsulahttp://bitchontheblog.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-80607812686573620622017-02-12T23:56:40.538+00:002017-02-12T23:56:40.538+00:00Divorcing couples generally don't reveal the d...Divorcing couples generally don't reveal the details of their divorce because it's no one else's fucking business. And people can grow apart without cheating, abuse, financial disagreements, or other fireworks. And sometimes, even without that, a relationship can't be revived. I try very hard to refrain from judging any one else's marriage and also know that what works for one couple doesn't necessarily work for another.Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-12650891108013129362017-02-12T22:28:54.492+00:002017-02-12T22:28:54.492+00:00Comprehension, mutual respect, tenderness, good se...Comprehension, mutual respect, tenderness, good sex whatever it means for everyone, and laughing together.For me an opposite character to mine is very important, I would get bored very quickly if my husband would have the same opinions than mine. The fact that my husband is so different makes our relation so exciting and fulfilled. Hope it will last the whole life. (He can not live without the look of my green eyes...lol) <br />Mia MoreAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com