tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post5826905504295037740..comments2024-03-28T07:49:04.960+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: Not quite marriednickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-86045767544004787742010-08-22T20:24:58.180+01:002010-08-22T20:24:58.180+01:00Val - That sounds very similar to our own relation...Val - That sounds very similar to our own relationship. Like you, sometimes we keep to ourselves and at other times we keep each other company. I do most of the domestic chores (including looking after the cars and garden) as I'm currently jobless but Jenny has a very demanding job.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-9573598623335301862010-08-22T19:02:27.619+01:002010-08-22T19:02:27.619+01:00I used to think I'd never marry having been se...I used to think I'd never marry having been set a not entirely good example of it by my parents, but I've now been married for 13 years and both of us are very happy. That said, neither of are have a conventional marriage. We both take turns to cook and if one is ill the other takes over. He does all the supermarket shopping which I detest. We spend a lot of time by ourselves (ie, me by myself, him by himself) by choice as, at base, we are both loners and have continued to me. It's possible to be married and still be individuals. But you have to choose what's best for you - and you and your partner have done that.<br />:)Valhttp://absurdoldbird.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-69192818145020501132010-08-20T08:33:29.997+01:002010-08-20T08:33:29.997+01:00Rose - I'm glad you're totally unaware of ...Rose - I'm glad you're totally unaware of any negative stereotypes and just happily enjoy your marriage!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-81720742386031207062010-08-19T20:47:21.919+01:002010-08-19T20:47:21.919+01:00I find your opinion on marriage amusing. I have b...I find your opinion on marriage amusing. I have been married 21 years and I'm anything, but a Stepford Wife.Rosehttp://rosedesrochers.todays-woman.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-30776061155292984702010-08-11T20:32:15.523+01:002010-08-11T20:32:15.523+01:00Liz - Well, that's because we never think abou...Liz - Well, that's because we never think about marriage, we only think about our relationship! Indeed, being married is meaningless if the couple no longer love each other.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-42221714373275646922010-08-11T18:12:49.749+01:002010-08-11T18:12:49.749+01:00You say 'marriage still implies all sorts of u...You say 'marriage still implies all sorts of ugly expectations' yet you're living proof that it doesn't have to mean that is what I think I meant. <br />Marriage itself and the certificate are meaningless if you don't love each other and aren't committed.Liz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-89130670504471765552010-08-09T22:23:33.663+01:002010-08-09T22:23:33.663+01:00Liz - Do you think so? To us, the important thing ...Liz - Do you think so? To us, the important thing is that we love each other and we're committed to each other. The marriage certificate is no more than the legal recognition of our relationship. That's how we see it anyway.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-29170368041302027912010-08-09T21:43:23.142+01:002010-08-09T21:43:23.142+01:00How strange, nick, when you're married to stil...How strange, nick, when you're married to still feel like that.Liz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-12636375552333766642010-08-09T21:06:31.874+01:002010-08-09T21:06:31.874+01:00Secret Agent - Oh, I see it as a bit more than lin...Secret Agent - Oh, I see it as a bit more than linguistic quibbling. To me there's a lot of difference between the formality of marriage and all the stereotypes that go with it, and the much more open-ended concept of cohabiting. But maybe I just think too much!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-16741052699664293262010-08-09T20:39:03.949+01:002010-08-09T20:39:03.949+01:00I changed my name when I divorced (but took the op...I changed my name when I divorced (but took the opportunity to divest myself of a middle name), and would not change it again if I remarried.<br /><br />But what's wrong with expectations? I don't feel compelled to ever marry again, but it would not be because of some linguistic quibbling.secret agent womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03763879283931347382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-12771248581456196462010-08-08T20:08:23.009+01:002010-08-08T20:08:23.009+01:00Kate - That's wonderful that the relationship ...Kate - That's wonderful that the relationship lasted for 16 years. And it's interesting that your son and daughter have such different views on marriage. I guess I'd expect the woman to want the elaborate wedding, not the man.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-77882830263067608332010-08-08T18:59:42.867+01:002010-08-08T18:59:42.867+01:00My kids have grown up in a 'broken' home a...My kids have grown up in a 'broken' home and it is nice that my son wanted the big wedding with all the trimmings - it is also nice that my girl is quite happy living with her childhood sweetheart.<br /><br />And me - after the divorce I knew I wouldn't marry again but had the most amazing relationship for 16 years where my partner lived 4 miles away and we were together 3 or 4 times a week. <br /><br />Sadly this ended last year but it was a lovely time and at least the end wasn't messy as we didn't live together.Katehttp://www.iramble.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-66349697245236852672010-08-07T21:18:35.150+01:002010-08-07T21:18:35.150+01:00www - I know, I've heard of a few rapid divorc...www - I know, I've heard of a few rapid divorces as well. Indeed, Jenny and I must be doing something right if I'm not inclined to say "Live with another woman? You must be joking."Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-18931994741241285482010-08-07T20:26:08.227+01:002010-08-07T20:26:08.227+01:00I so agree Nick, marriage seems to put a damper on...I so agree Nick, marriage seems to put a damper on things for a lot of people, one couple I know lived together for 15 years and then married and divorced after 9 mos. Hated the symbolic leg chains.<br />As for me, I retain my birth name would never give it up as it is so unusual and well, ME.<br />I think it a wonderful compliment to Jenny that if anything happened you would co-habit again.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-39115457705346086362010-08-07T08:35:03.756+01:002010-08-07T08:35:03.756+01:00Eryl - Well, thank you! I don't need any off s...Eryl - Well, thank you! I don't need any off switches just yet, I'm pretty fit, though some off switches seem to be half-off already. Like my memory and my sense of smell.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-30600976320779878182010-08-07T00:35:29.300+01:002010-08-07T00:35:29.300+01:00What a lovely couple you are, and so agile. Nevert...What a lovely couple you are, and so agile. Nevertheless, there will come a time when you will be glad of the off switches (so I'm told).Erylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06008344023000459577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-18461266179893265232010-08-06T13:26:15.701+01:002010-08-06T13:26:15.701+01:00Kylie - They couldn't get along, huh? The usua...Kylie - They couldn't get along, huh? The usual quarrels over cheese quality, I suppose? These mice are so fussy nowadays.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-50295303474901352952010-08-06T08:55:38.928+01:002010-08-06T08:55:38.928+01:00actually, just one mouse. there were two and they ...actually, just one mouse. there were two and they couldnt get along so they had a house each. george, the mouse, got out today and had a whole lot of fun in a whole box of food<br /><br />i'm not sure why i'm telling you all that, prolly cos i dont want to get dinner....kyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-46589368111517634812010-08-06T08:49:05.465+01:002010-08-06T08:49:05.465+01:00Kylie - Mice? Eeeek! As long as they don't fin...Kylie - Mice? Eeeek! As long as they don't find the cupcakes....<br /><br />Are they cohabiting mice or are they married?Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-15790388853970216142010-08-06T08:45:36.781+01:002010-08-06T08:45:36.781+01:00i would think you're right about that, i was g...i would think you're right about that, i was going to say something along those lines but got distracted, theres a lot going on here, mice, cupcakes, washing......kyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-68845705556063885652010-08-06T08:38:19.487+01:002010-08-06T08:38:19.487+01:00Kylie - I suspect what she got sick of wasn't ...Kylie - I suspect what she got sick of wasn't calling him partner but other people's tedious reactions. Does that mean you're cohabiting? Are you in fact married? Is that a business partner? etc etcNicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-90352849411713474092010-08-06T08:32:06.136+01:002010-08-06T08:32:06.136+01:00i remember hqving a home ecs teacher who cohabited...i remember hqving a home ecs teacher who cohabited for many years and then when she wasin her forties she married her man because she got sick of introducing him as her partnerkyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-78039517454881114082010-08-06T08:14:23.231+01:002010-08-06T08:14:23.231+01:00Megan - Just looked that up. So community property...Megan - Just looked that up. So community property means assumption of joint ownership by the couple. I think there's a similar assumption in the UK except that when you're buying a house or flat you have to specify joint ownership or not (whether married or cohabiting).Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-27101996579397583072010-08-06T05:16:19.584+01:002010-08-06T05:16:19.584+01:00California is a community property state, so the p...California is a community property state, so the piece of paper definitely means something here!Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09387041422819664987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-46365671015027887212010-08-05T17:04:24.682+01:002010-08-05T17:04:24.682+01:00Ramana - It's still the conventional thing her...Ramana - It's still the conventional thing here to prefer being known as married. Cohabiting and marriage are seen as opposing states, even though the only real difference is legal - and I suppose religious if you're that way inclined.Nicknoreply@blogger.com