tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post5480249831264979737..comments2024-03-28T07:49:04.960+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: Acting normalnickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-30260387502768200602015-05-07T17:46:58.479+01:002015-05-07T17:46:58.479+01:00Agent: True, it's very normal to have quirks a...Agent: True, it's very normal to have quirks and fears. When I said that people hide the quirks and fears and act "normal", I suppose what I meant was that they act as if nothing at all is wrong with them and they find life very straightforward.<br /><br />The Stepford Wives is very creepy!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-11536069156853627522015-05-07T17:41:05.027+01:002015-05-07T17:41:05.027+01:00Given my line of work, it's about impossible t...Given my line of work, it's about impossible to shock me. But most of the time, what people think is not normal about them, isn't. Having quirks or fears r what have you isn't not being normal. It would be <i>abnormal</i> if we were all clones. That's what made the Stepford Wives so creepy.Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-89852302691403097202015-05-07T10:10:51.401+01:002015-05-07T10:10:51.401+01:00Ramana: I thought that comment must have been on t...Ramana: I thought that comment must have been on the wrong post. But you have my response!<br /><br />I'm glad to know someone so thoroughly abnormal. A most refreshing situation!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-53749233181458458552015-05-07T08:36:00.439+01:002015-05-07T08:36:00.439+01:00Nick, by now you know of course that for me being ...Nick, by now you know of course that for me being abnormal is normal. What will you do with someone like me around?Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-3614430211842095172015-05-07T08:33:36.165+01:002015-05-07T08:33:36.165+01:00Nick, I feel really like kicking myself, That was...Nick, I feel really like kicking myself, That was in response to your later post on estrangement. Please forgive me. But the comment and your response in that context is perfect.Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-79509999514139624182015-05-06T12:26:01.274+01:002015-05-06T12:26:01.274+01:00Ramana: It's a terrible situation when you fee...Ramana: It's a terrible situation when you feel obliged to look after someone you can't stand, and nobody else is willing to help. I'm glad you're now free of that burden and have the chance to live life as you wish.<br /><br />I was estranged from my father for around 20 years. Luckily I didn't have to look after him at any point.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-49913038099294673212015-05-06T12:15:05.521+01:002015-05-06T12:15:05.521+01:00I was estranged from my father for thirteen years ...I was estranged from my father for thirteen years till my late wife made it impossible for me not to reestablish contact as he had by then become my son's grandfather. I never did have a great relationship with him even when towards the end of his life he came and spent four years with me as his caregiver, thanks again due to the same late wife;s goading. My other siblings would have nothing to do with him but were willing to share the expenses. One sibling came and stayed with me for six weeks during the time that he was with me withour having spoken one single word with him during those six weeks when he looked after my household during my convalescence after surgery. Nuts, we are all to some degree or the other and some of us can do what needs to be done for reasons other than noble motives while loathing every minute of it.Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-45352298552591160592015-05-03T10:23:15.314+01:002015-05-03T10:23:15.314+01:00Rose: A very sensible attitude re sharing less and...Rose: A very sensible attitude re sharing less and less because most of it's all done and dusted anyway. That tends to be my own attitude. But I'll dig up the past if someone else is interested and they might have some useful insights. Then again, some things simply aren't done and dusted and keep coming back to haunt me.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-23847352490965963562015-05-03T10:14:29.621+01:002015-05-03T10:14:29.621+01:00Keith: Funny how "normal" tends to mean ...Keith: Funny how "normal" tends to mean sane, happy and free of hang-ups. In fact statistically, normal must include common hang-ups like phobias, obsessions and anxiety.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-12320223698693017522015-05-03T10:13:35.678+01:002015-05-03T10:13:35.678+01:00I think bloggers naturally over-share, it is our n...I think bloggers naturally over-share, it is our nature. Otherwise we'd be "normal". <br /><br />Don't know about "normal", tried it, didn't like it. Plus, I tread warily around people who say they have a lovely life and everything's going swimmingly all the time. <br /><br />There are some things that aren't for public consumption and as I've got older, I share less and less with people. Partly because I've worked through the issues, traumas etc, mostly because what's done is done. Constantly re-visiting the past only gives it greater power over my present and future. For me, the past is done. It only exists in my imagination. Therefore, I let something far better occupy my mind.Roseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07469442580348062913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-40057395588393496902015-05-03T09:18:13.783+01:002015-05-03T09:18:13.783+01:00Nick: Whenever I put "Ha!" at the end it...Nick: Whenever I put "Ha!" at the end it means it is a joke, but sometimes I really feel like letting off steam, but like yourself, I try to act like a normal sane person and keep my hangups to myself.Robert Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13163819196303858927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-75640292485916775622015-05-03T06:49:21.944+01:002015-05-03T06:49:21.944+01:00Keith: I hope you're joking.
Jean: I know wha...Keith: I hope you're joking.<br /><br />Jean: I know what you mean about changing yourself, and I've changed mentally and emotionally in a lot of ways over the years. But this is something in a different league altogether.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-64468702623051945042015-05-03T05:37:05.142+01:002015-05-03T05:37:05.142+01:00I'm not imaging anything, but I am a bit curio...I'm not imaging anything, but I am a bit curious. <br /><br />My guess is we're very different. I think of myself as a creative person, and when I have areas that bother me I'm more apt to make changes in myself. It's taken a lot of time and study, and it's not for everyone, but I became fascinated about the possibilities when I was around 16. It's been a great trip so far, but I will no doubt be tested in the coming years. Andy and I are at the age when big changes could happen any day. Cheerful Monkhttp://cheerfulmonk.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-45148029088207153972015-05-02T22:52:20.608+01:002015-05-02T22:52:20.608+01:00When I get screwed up, I make sure everybody knows...When I get screwed up, I make sure <b>everybody</b> knows it!<br /><br />Then when I've ruined their day, I feel so much better! Ha!Robert Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13163819196303858927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-49018932511355642982015-05-02T08:04:27.655+01:002015-05-02T08:04:27.655+01:00Jean: Festering is the right word. And it does imp...Jean: Festering is the right word. And it does imply something serious. But don't start imagining all sorts of alarming possibilities. They'll probably all be wildly wrong!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-14026744565976190582015-05-02T03:11:13.807+01:002015-05-02T03:11:13.807+01:00I was just responding to your use of the word &quo...I was just responding to your use of the word "festering". That implied something serious. Perhaps it was too strong a word.Cheerful Monkhttp://cheerfulmonk.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-32041240100395017902015-05-01T22:34:38.761+01:002015-05-01T22:34:38.761+01:00Jean: I don't need professional help. It's...Jean: I don't need professional help. It's a lot more complicated than that. But I'm not prepared to elaborate.<br /><br />In any case, professional help doesn't always solve someone's problems. They may go too deep to be more than mitigated a little.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-14486277686881239282015-05-01T22:23:26.611+01:002015-05-01T22:23:26.611+01:00Why are you still festering? Why not get some pro...Why are you still festering? Why not get some professional help if you need it, work through it, and move on? Cheerful Monkhttp://cheerfulmonk.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-68207456994980166662015-05-01T19:44:39.227+01:002015-05-01T19:44:39.227+01:00Susie: Exactly. I know your thing about feeling fi...Susie: Exactly. I know your thing about feeling fine. Fucked-up, insecure, neurotic and emotional. Which I totally identify with. As he says, given other people's attitudes, letting it all hang out could easily lead to a spell in the funny farm.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-21390173689374395752015-05-01T19:30:05.368+01:002015-05-01T19:30:05.368+01:00What Dave said...starting with Personally.What Dave said...starting with Personally.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-42292429742640598372015-05-01T16:52:53.731+01:002015-05-01T16:52:53.731+01:00www: I don't really think so-called oversharin...www: I don't really think so-called oversharing is a problem. Why shouldn't we reveal anything we want to, anything that's important to us? I think the true problem is blinkered people who simply Don't-Want-To-Know.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-65218150232035848152015-05-01T14:14:59.525+01:002015-05-01T14:14:59.525+01:00Kylie: I don't think so. People's scars ca...Kylie: I don't think so. People's scars can be totally hidden unless they choose to reveal them. How can you see that someone has been raped or suffers from depression or is being bullied by their boss? Only they know that unless they talk about it.<br /><br />Of course people worth knowing are okay about our hang-ups but what if the people you happen to know are not so sympathetic? I have to say that in my own experience, honesty has often been met by outright hostility. Which is why cover-ups are unfortunately necessary.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-69446720688701558612015-05-01T12:01:34.470+01:002015-05-01T12:01:34.470+01:00nick, you are so far off the truth here. most peop...nick, you are so far off the truth here. most people's scars are reasonably visible and having visible scars doesnt stop people from being "normal", if anyone is normal.<br /><br />the people worth knowing are usually ok about our neuroses and foibles if we will trust them enough to be honest but cover ups and dishonesties are insultingkyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-84953400492903005192015-05-01T08:04:42.641+01:002015-05-01T08:04:42.641+01:00Jean: I tend to work through things on my own as w...Jean: I tend to work through things on my own as well, not having any close friends to help me out. But my blogmates often come up with very illuminating insights.<br /><br />Dave: I rest my case! Re all the hidden hang-ups, that is. Indeed, if we were more sympathetic to other people's difficulties and abandoned all the knee-jerk reactions, everyone would be better off.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-68451938918603802442015-05-01T07:55:50.410+01:002015-05-01T07:55:50.410+01:00John: You're a glorious exception. Totally you...John: You're a glorious exception. Totally yourself and you don't care who knows it! You wouldn't know normal if it slapped you in the belly!<br /><br />www: That got me thinking. I'm a bit nervous about oversharing as well. I often feel I'm saying too much about myself and it might be better to shut up.Nicknoreply@blogger.com