tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post5165617016572682927..comments2024-03-28T07:49:04.960+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: Carry on dozingnickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-35253340575114876262018-05-23T22:18:21.718+01:002018-05-23T22:18:21.718+01:00John: The incorrigible amateur psychiatrist is onc...John: The incorrigible amateur psychiatrist is once again tearing me to pieces on her blog.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-52702508648853920672018-05-23T20:55:35.291+01:002018-05-23T20:55:35.291+01:00Late to the party....what's ursula up to?Late to the party....what's ursula up to?John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-56244824919960042722018-05-22T21:28:19.179+01:002018-05-22T21:28:19.179+01:00Jenny: That's very true. In fact that's my...Jenny: That's very true. In fact that's my sister's situation, because she's had motor neurone disease for 13 years, is almost totally disabled, yet her mind is 100 per cent.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-13675441726051506792018-05-22T19:38:03.228+01:002018-05-22T19:38:03.228+01:00To be happy in old age is e a great blessing. It c...To be happy in old age is e a great blessing. It could be very frustrating if she had her faculties, and yet her body let her down. Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-58202738819474200842018-05-22T12:58:12.321+01:002018-05-22T12:58:12.321+01:00Ms Scarlet: I assume all my blogmates are who they...Ms Scarlet: I assume all my blogmates are who they say they are, but you never know. Don't worry, my blog hasn't been hijacked. The attempted hijacker has been apprehended and removed by our security team.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-67280398950046349152018-05-22T12:51:04.679+01:002018-05-22T12:51:04.679+01:00You see this will send me down a blogging rabbit h...You see this will send me down a blogging rabbit hole of no return - revisiting old blogs and pondering who the authors really were... and there are a few who vanish and come back again. And some I reckon must have died.<br />Apologies, your post has been hijacked. I reckon that when I'm in a care home I'll be rambling on about old bloggers and nobody will have a clue what I'm on about!<br />SxMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-32949485123318641952018-05-22T12:37:18.730+01:002018-05-22T12:37:18.730+01:00Ms Scarlet: Then the elusive Clive remains a myste...Ms Scarlet: Then the elusive Clive remains a mystery. He might actually have been Claude, or Clancy, or Clarence. Or Cecilia.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-73590510605932806572018-05-22T12:21:29.774+01:002018-05-22T12:21:29.774+01:00Well, my 'Clive' was a blogger of ye olde ...Well, my 'Clive' was a blogger of ye olde blogging days... and I'm not even sure he was a 'Clive'. And, people used to call him a Troll - but he wasn't really. <br />SxMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-45043170995133461252018-05-22T12:07:21.636+01:002018-05-22T12:07:21.636+01:00Ms Scarlet: I await the promptings of your memory....Ms Scarlet: I await the promptings of your memory.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-35720898475352118942018-05-22T11:08:23.547+01:002018-05-22T11:08:23.547+01:00Apologies, Nick, my comment just published should ...Apologies, Nick, my comment just published should have been posted under "Bitch on the Blog". You know where to find him.<br /><br />UUrsulahttp://bitchontheblog.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-43680928368099198562018-05-22T11:00:35.050+01:002018-05-22T11:00:35.050+01:00Clive is calling.Clive is calling.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-73623159581535527672018-05-22T09:12:22.127+01:002018-05-22T09:12:22.127+01:00Regarding the comment referencing a troll called &...Regarding the comment referencing a troll called 'Clive' - that rings a bell. The name 'Clive'. It's bugging me now. I have heard and read so many peculiar things over the years though. It'll come to me.<br />SxMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-79359469110989117062018-05-22T09:03:12.389+01:002018-05-22T09:03:12.389+01:00Ms Scarlet: My mum isn't on any morphine as fa...Ms Scarlet: My mum isn't on any morphine as far as I know. I think I'd be perfectly happy if I was drifting through the days in a morphine haze....nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-91731425330529374202018-05-22T08:45:37.424+01:002018-05-22T08:45:37.424+01:00My mum is similar, but I think they have upped her...My mum is similar, but I think they have upped her morphine. She is still keen on Midsomer Murders... she watches it on a repeat loop and as if every episode is brand new.<br />I am not looking forward to old age, and incapacity... but at least there is morphine.<br />SxMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-37948610046363491252018-05-22T08:37:33.014+01:002018-05-22T08:37:33.014+01:00Jean: She's very lucky to have never had a maj...Jean: She's very lucky to have never had a major illness. She has a pacemaker and that's it. All she has to complain about is occasional back pain!nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-16496702649909033782018-05-22T05:39:26.382+01:002018-05-22T05:39:26.382+01:00I'm pleased that she is so happy --- at 96 tha...I'm pleased that she is so happy --- at 96 that's a blessing. I've known people in their 90's who were suffering. It was heartbreaking. CheerfulMonkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934008738777906970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-4053611299213944782018-05-21T14:04:49.936+01:002018-05-21T14:04:49.936+01:00Ramana: That's true, I hadn't thought abou...Ramana: That's true, I hadn't thought about it. The last time I saw her I was worried about how she would get on in the care home, and I was worried about clearing her flat and tidying up her finances. Now everything's sorted out and she's obviously happy.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-65515577291281710042018-05-21T14:01:00.554+01:002018-05-21T14:01:00.554+01:00Bijoux: Oh, you also think it's a man? Intrigu...Bijoux: Oh, you also think it's a man? Intriguing. Luckily she or he has now decided to give my blog a wide berth.<br /><br />Liz: You could be right there. The mistake is probably to see her from the point of view of the mentally astute and to fret that she isn't the same.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-69413635591214611552018-05-21T13:14:36.986+01:002018-05-21T13:14:36.986+01:00Both she and you seem to be better off after this ...Both she and you seem to be better off after this meeting than the last one that you had. No point worrying about her condition as long as she is comfortable with herself and her environment. Rummuserhttp://rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-53908176424277334392018-05-21T13:11:18.230+01:002018-05-21T13:11:18.230+01:00It's always sad for us on the outside but less...It's always sad for us on the outside but less so for the cared-for person it seems to me. Usually that is. My uncle was physically disabled in his final years and very depressed. Better his way for your mum.Liz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-57795599576364745472018-05-21T12:38:16.926+01:002018-05-21T12:38:16.926+01:00OMG on the preceding comment! I actually wouldn...OMG on the preceding comment! I actually wouldn't be surprised at all if it was a man behind all of that drama and bullying that's gone on for years! Funny, because the first online problem I had (10 years ago) was with a woman from the UK who picked apart a question I had on a message board about colleges.Bijouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05788630004051883635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-85092076867326253982018-05-21T12:07:04.988+01:002018-05-21T12:07:04.988+01:00John: Thanks for those interesting comments. I'...John: Thanks for those interesting comments. I'm not entirely convinced my mum lacks the capacity to take an interest in the outside world, but you might be right. I've certainly concluded that empathising with her current mental state is more practical than trying to change her.<br /><br />It seems to me, having read it for quite a while, that the blog in question is genuine. It seems unlikely that it's written by anyone else, and certainly not a man. But who knows? Stranger things have happened.<br /><br />Thanks for your compliments. Hopefully my readers don't find reading my blog a total waste of time!nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-20410164302136498072018-05-21T09:26:11.738+01:002018-05-21T09:26:11.738+01:00Hello Nick - I have read your entry about three ti...Hello Nick - I have read your entry about three times to try and be sure I have read things correctly (having said goodbye to a mother in her 90s myself relatively recently) I have decided you will 'get' why your dear mum appears to have no interest in your - or anyone else's life. I am totally sure - as I am sure you are - that this is nothing whatsoever to do with lack of interest - but lack of capacity.<br /><br />When I read your remark 'it appears it is all she wants' my thought is that it is all that she can manage. <br /><br />I know from my own experience it is really hard when a once on-it person is off-it. But my own experience is that it is pointless to do other than attempt to empathise with the older person.<br /><br />PS one final remark - I'm only here because I picked up on some bizarre drama around a person with mental health issues on a bullying campaign to you and various other bloggers mainly from UK. I've had a good mooch around and all I can find is a wind-up fake account channeling through the title bitch on the blog. Which I think is being put out by a man called Clive who is well known and across the www for identical scam / troll like activities. Whatever! I am enjoying reading your blog - sorry for rambling on - but your elderly mother post did chime.<br /><br />Thanks for a really interesting blog.<br /><br />John Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-31543956411123416852018-05-20T21:57:35.895+01:002018-05-20T21:57:35.895+01:00Tammy: She's much happier there than she was i...Tammy: She's much happier there than she was in her own flat. Which is okay by me.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-39793930118594154652018-05-20T19:30:10.426+01:002018-05-20T19:30:10.426+01:00i agree with you and helen.
whatever makes her hap...i agree with you and helen.<br />whatever makes her happy at this point! <br />there is a certain beauty in that kind of simplicity of living. and the fact that she was still delighted to see you... that's enough! xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com