tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post5138337089644484092..comments2024-03-28T07:49:04.960+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: Generositynickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-4118088380097309882013-10-03T07:45:20.252+01:002013-10-03T07:45:20.252+01:00Paul: There's no "but" because I did...Paul: There's no "but" because I didn't have the space to list all my dozens of faults - and as you know, there are plenty. But meanness ain't one of them. I'm not disposed to instantly condemn people I know next to nothing about.<br /><br />Well, when someone hurts my friend, forgiveness is a matter for the friend, but I would certainly defend them (the friend) in any way I could.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-72690474659409076702013-10-02T22:28:40.857+01:002013-10-02T22:28:40.857+01:00I was waiting for a "but" - but there wa...I was waiting for a "but" - but there wasn't one!<br />When it comes to forgiveness, the tricky one - or is that the impossible one - is when someone hurts your friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-22755339554948919042013-09-27T22:09:22.530+01:002013-09-27T22:09:22.530+01:00Jenny: I think that's true. Out-and-out meanne...Jenny: I think that's true. Out-and-out meanness is pretty rare.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-68341570133728768442013-09-27T21:16:06.976+01:002013-09-27T21:16:06.976+01:00That's a pretty generous attitude. I think ver...That's a pretty generous attitude. I think very few people are totally lacking in all kinds of generosity, thank goodness. Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-48207875244951072172013-09-26T15:34:20.729+01:002013-09-26T15:34:20.729+01:00Grannymar: Er no, I don't think so! Anyway, I ...Grannymar: Er no, I don't think so! Anyway, I think some people don't really believe I'm so lacking in malice and censoriousness....Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-2675271663526741632013-09-26T14:21:07.740+01:002013-09-26T14:21:07.740+01:00Nick, are we twins? ;)Nick, are we twins? ;)Grannymarhttp://grannymar.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-6727030897129907652013-09-26T07:26:13.658+01:002013-09-26T07:26:13.658+01:00Kylie: Oh, I think I do. The more self-awareness, ...Kylie: Oh, I think I do. The more self-awareness, the better. People who aren't self-aware are a real liability. Also, I don't have a strong sense of self-identity because of my very authoritarian upbringing, and I feel I still have a lot to discover about myself. Yes, even at the age of 66!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-18496598920619908972013-09-25T23:44:55.412+01:002013-09-25T23:44:55.412+01:00of course everything you say and do defines you bu...of course everything you say and do defines you but you dont need to think about it ad infinitum!kyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-53064672143354823772013-09-25T17:39:50.967+01:002013-09-25T17:39:50.967+01:00www: Indeed. I always treat them as equals, deserv...www: Indeed. I always treat them as equals, deserving the same respect and courtesy as anyone else. And I like the term "personal generosity".<br /><br />There are virtually no street people in Belfast so I have little chance to test my reactions....Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-61713322560377716672013-09-25T17:36:14.671+01:002013-09-25T17:36:14.671+01:00Kylie: I was thinking of mentioning that, but my p...Kylie: I was thinking of mentioning that, but my post was getting longer and longer! Yes, there is such a thing as over-generosity that becomes a hindrance rather than a help....<br /><br />I can't just be, any more than you can. Everything I do and say defines who and what I am.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-84972644056876813042013-09-25T16:19:17.062+01:002013-09-25T16:19:17.062+01:00Best demonstration of personal generosity: Observe...Best demonstration of personal generosity: Observe how people treat servers, flight attendants, etc.<br /><br />Best demonstration of financial generosity: asking street people what they need and getting it for them (meal, coffee, blanket, etc.)<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-87760692564808339572013-09-25T13:50:07.840+01:002013-09-25T13:50:07.840+01:00oh nick, did you ever see anyone try too hard and ...oh nick, did you ever see anyone try too hard and make an absolute hash of what they were doing?<br /><br />you need to stop deciding how you want to be described and just BE.<br /><br />kyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-66183683630205735042013-09-25T13:08:56.590+01:002013-09-25T13:08:56.590+01:00Agent: That's true, sometimes first impression...Agent: That's true, sometimes first impressions can be all too accurate and a person turns out to be just as flawed as they seemed to be.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-79283384782938370952013-09-25T11:56:31.927+01:002013-09-25T11:56:31.927+01:00This is yet another trait where it all depends on ...This is yet another trait where it all depends on the situation. I don't mind flaws in others, of course, and I forgive sometimes too easily. But there are times when it's best to pay attention to early warning signs about someone's character.Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-82951668868413157692013-09-25T11:26:04.617+01:002013-09-25T11:26:04.617+01:00Ursula: Trust you to pick on that! Mind you, when ...Ursula: Trust you to pick on that! Mind you, when I say I'm not especially generous with money, all I mean is that I don't fling it in all directions. If someone I know or some worthy charity needs money, and I feel like helping them, I'll happily fork out. For example, we just donated to a San Francisco charity that's going to provide showers for street people.<br /><br />And you can't seriously think I'm a perfect human being if you've been reading my blog regularly!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-77071759802631461342013-09-25T10:41:20.311+01:002013-09-25T10:41:20.311+01:00Well, Nick, like Grannymar,judging by her 'Tue...Well, Nick, like Grannymar,judging by her 'Tuesday Surprise", you too are a perfect human being whilst - as you both describe it - flawed. I salute you both. Congratulations. Not that I would come to either of you for anything.<br /><br />To be fair to you: You do not consider yourself 'generous' when it comes to money. A major character defect in my book. In my experience, and it is considerable since I am impecunious every so often whilst throwing money at others even when I am not exactly swimming in it myself, people who can't put their hand in their pockets are, by definition, NOT generous of mind or soul. <br /><br />UUrsulahttp://bitchontheblog.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-90102294010824688792013-09-24T22:32:16.382+01:002013-09-24T22:32:16.382+01:00Bijoux: Very true. Odd how some people just blank ...Bijoux: Very true. Odd how some people just blank a disabled person as if they don't even exist.<br /><br />Suburbia: Thanks for the compliment! No thanks to my own parents, I have to say. My attitudes are more an act of rebellion against their less tolerant outlook.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-90481519754296319792013-09-24T22:12:48.264+01:002013-09-24T22:12:48.264+01:00A lesson for us all to learn and teach our childre...A lesson for us all to learn and teach our children :) Thanks NickSuburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-19366427952689359842013-09-24T21:22:02.377+01:002013-09-24T21:22:02.377+01:00A benefit of having a child with a disability is t...A benefit of having a child with a disability is that you are able to see people's true colors a little more clearly. Do they ignore your child or do they make an effort to get to know him/her? It can be interesting.Bijouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05788630004051883635noreply@blogger.com