tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post4751635706407264914..comments2024-03-28T07:49:04.960+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: Hunting happinessnickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-54664299391687186812010-04-27T08:57:13.846+01:002010-04-27T08:57:13.846+01:00Secret Agent - Your response to the break-up certa...Secret Agent - Your response to the break-up certainly suggests a very positive attitude. Sorry it happened though.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-88830900703476507742010-04-27T01:07:32.164+01:002010-04-27T01:07:32.164+01:00I think that people can learn to change their atti...I think that people can learn to change their attitude but it takes a LOT of work. But people are temperamentally inclined to be satisfied or dissatisfied, so some of us have a jump start on it. It's funny to read this right now because I just had a relationship implode yesterday in a pretty ugly way and about an hour ago I texted the person to say I was unable to hold a grudge and am rapidly coming to peace with it.secret agent womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03763879283931347382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-7017450194143873712010-04-25T21:04:20.478+01:002010-04-25T21:04:20.478+01:00Liz - I firmly believe that if you expect bad thin...Liz - I firmly believe that if you expect bad things to happen they often will, and vice versa. Though she may have had more than her share of bad luck as well....Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-20435075127602408522010-04-25T19:40:04.366+01:002010-04-25T19:40:04.366+01:00I know one lady who always looks on the black side...I know one lady who always looks on the black side. Trouble is that it, the bad thing, does usually happen to her. I wonder which came first. Did she become gloomy because bad things happened or do more bad things happen to her because she - not wills it or makes it happen but somehow allows it? I don't know. That doesn't seem possible so maybe she's just miserable because life is rubbish to her.Liz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-45524599219890422692010-04-24T13:20:02.791+01:002010-04-24T13:20:02.791+01:00Baino - Okay, fair enough. Particularly if it mean...Baino - Okay, fair enough. Particularly if it meant you could repay all your debts. I know they're hanging over you like a very large millstone....Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-44211775522822408502010-04-24T04:35:57.035+01:002010-04-24T04:35:57.035+01:00Sorry but yes. Double my current income and I'...Sorry but yes. Double my current income and I'd have no debt. That my friend would make me positively hilarious. Well that and not being trapped in a house I can't sell. The research is rigged, I'm sure!Bainohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156193098088048637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-23996557802444149042010-04-23T16:19:29.232+01:002010-04-23T16:19:29.232+01:00Kate - There's a lot of truth in that. It'...Kate - There's a lot of truth in that. It's hard to be miserable when people around you are visibly enjoying life.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-45983617500605337562010-04-23T15:29:06.731+01:002010-04-23T15:29:06.731+01:00I think I have always believed in the 'Laugh a...I think I have always believed in the 'Laugh and the world laughs with you' theory..... its better than crying alone!!!Katehttp://www.iramble.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-64703606564980812682010-04-22T19:42:52.404+01:002010-04-22T19:42:52.404+01:00Brighid - Glad to know you're a happy person. ...Brighid - Glad to know you're a happy person. And that's true, we could do without misery but it does make us appreciate being happy.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-50299001943243975232010-04-22T18:49:00.276+01:002010-04-22T18:49:00.276+01:00Listen up Sunshine, I'm the happiest person ev...Listen up Sunshine, I'm the happiest person even if I haven't perfected the Baino sunbeam fart...<br />Balance is boring...for the most part. If we had no lows we wouldn't appreciate the highs...Brighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11299215170393879517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-28274844080194731552010-04-22T09:35:05.101+01:002010-04-22T09:35:05.101+01:00Megan - Unfortunately I think not. He always had a...Megan - Unfortunately I think not. He always had a very sad and battered expression.<br /><br />I'm happy to read your comment. And happy the sun is shining. And happy to have so many blogmates in California!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-30730463122006612732010-04-22T09:13:00.120+01:002010-04-22T09:13:00.120+01:00Remember that post a while back about your shut-in...Remember that post a while back about your shut-in neighbor? I wonder if he was happy. He may have been, you know.<br /><br />I'm happy to be here. I'm happy you are alive in the world and have your Jenny back. I'm happy that the rain is supposed to stop before I have to walk to the train in the morning!Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09387041422819664987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-76584453456656639592010-04-21T22:12:52.373+01:002010-04-21T22:12:52.373+01:00Baino - If you had double your present income, wou...Baino - If you had double your present income, would you really be twice as happy? I doubt it somehow. In fact research shows that beyond a certain level of income, people's degree of happiness doesn't change.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-65045540130615129312010-04-21T21:08:59.428+01:002010-04-21T21:08:59.428+01:00I think happiness is subjective. I'm happy, I ...I think happiness is subjective. I'm happy, I just don't go around snifing roses and farting sunbeams .. mind you If money doesn't make you happy, I'd like to volunteer to test that hypothesis .. wouldn't do me any harm I can tell you!Bainohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156193098088048637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-39351207881668770142010-04-21T14:55:46.887+01:002010-04-21T14:55:46.887+01:00Ramana - The link's not working right now. I d...Ramana - The link's not working right now. I didn't think his Six Happiness Tips looked very ground-breaking. Still, if you say people have benefitted, who am I to object?Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-36031926133154722982010-04-21T14:20:10.823+01:002010-04-21T14:20:10.823+01:00As you probably know, I am an agony uncle for a lo...As you probably know, I am an agony uncle for a lot of people. In some cases, I recommend Tal Ben-Shahr's books which, if sincerely studied and impemented change lives. I know of three cases where they did.<br />http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&safe=off&pwst=1&source=univ&tbs=bks:1&tbo=u&q=inauthor:Tal+inauthor:Ben+inauthor:Shahar&ei=3frOS-rLJMfGrAfb_fhw&sa=X&oi=book_group&ct=title&cad=author-navigational&resnum=6&ved=0CCYQsAMwBQRummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-80273730543002784822010-04-21T13:34:39.830+01:002010-04-21T13:34:39.830+01:00Scarlet - Balanced hormones, that must be it. I th...Scarlet - Balanced hormones, that must be it. I think my hormones could still do with a bit of fine tuning, happiness is not yet 24/7.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-59851609813046726902010-04-21T12:49:25.060+01:002010-04-21T12:49:25.060+01:00Yeah... you have to be in the right mood for happi...Yeah... you have to be in the right mood for happiness. Balanced hormones and all that.<br />SxMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-39494917273290878482010-04-21T09:12:05.680+01:002010-04-21T09:12:05.680+01:00Quicky - You're telling me, there's a plag...Quicky - You're telling me, there's a plague of happiness gurus out there all with flocks of devotees. But how many of them actually have the desired result?<br /><br />Liz - Happiness is definitely contagious. The effect of a visibly happy person on their audience is sometimes amazing. The whole room lights up!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-41613197633608862492010-04-21T09:08:06.646+01:002010-04-21T09:08:06.646+01:00Kylie - Good question. Funnily enough, the two are...Kylie - Good question. Funnily enough, the two are compatible. I do worry a lot but at the same time I'm optimistic that everything will work out - and it usually does.<br /><br />www - I do think we're born with one tendency or the other, much as I would like to say that childhood conditioning is all!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-89672688675519403862010-04-21T07:19:42.067+01:002010-04-21T07:19:42.067+01:00I certainly think folks get into a pattern. They g...I certainly think folks get into a pattern. They get used to complaining, being ungrateful - but the good thing is the happy people are just as "contagious" as folks who are perpetual sulkers.Liz Dwyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17794296990587989214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-71256003857418018282010-04-21T07:08:38.503+01:002010-04-21T07:08:38.503+01:00there's big money in quick fixes for 'happ...there's big money in quick fixes for 'happiness' - I just wish I could get in on the racket - It's fairly easy to keep me happy - a beer usually helpsPaddy in BA (Quickroute)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12748161252400814925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-47345314794050306362010-04-21T04:15:18.093+01:002010-04-21T04:15:18.093+01:00"Happiness is an inside job", Nick.
No ..."Happiness is an inside job", Nick.<br /><br />No amount of money can buy it and not even the most perfect love/relationship/child/house can supply it.<br /><br />I think we are born with the capacity.<br /><br />And I don't think we can be happy all the time.<br /><br />I'd say I'm happy 95% of the time but when I go down I go pretty far down.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-39662332004415196912010-04-20T23:09:14.994+01:002010-04-20T23:09:14.994+01:00as a self confessed worrier, doesnt that stop you ...as a self confessed worrier, doesnt that stop you being happy?kyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-76995430158284806632010-04-20T22:00:57.669+01:002010-04-20T22:00:57.669+01:00Grannymar - Good way of looking at it, do I really...Grannymar - Good way of looking at it, do I really want to be miserable for the rest of my life? I think the answer has to be, Hey let's party!!Nicknoreply@blogger.com