tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post436332712710115188..comments2024-03-17T12:29:06.250+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: Only teasingnickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-80309674356863935892012-03-22T09:09:12.965+00:002012-03-22T09:09:12.965+00:00Jenny - I think that's true. Kids should be re...Jenny - I think that's true. Kids should be reminded of the difference, and adults shouldn't turn a blind eye to teasing that gets nasty.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-38913337385650725072012-03-21T22:19:26.246+00:002012-03-21T22:19:26.246+00:00I think there is a very definite line between teas...I think there is a very definite line between teasing and bullying. Some kids need help to tell the difference, and I don't really think many of them get that help.Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-66182592288182907062012-03-21T14:47:39.939+00:002012-03-21T14:47:39.939+00:00Kylie - Unfortunate that you still regret what you...Kylie - Unfortunate that you still regret what you said 20 years ago! The endless repercussions of impulsive remarks....Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-77425744999468206592012-03-21T08:43:20.067+00:002012-03-21T08:43:20.067+00:00long years ago i teased a fella about the jacket h...long years ago i teased a fella about the jacket he was wearing. it was meant in fun but he never wore the jacket again.<br />i still regret that some 20 odd years later.<br /><br />and i wish i knew where he iskyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-76096356586573652352012-03-19T21:10:20.383+00:002012-03-19T21:10:20.383+00:00Liz - So did I! And why shouldn't he look like...Liz - So did I! And why shouldn't he look like a girl if wants to? Good point about nicknames. Names like "Four-eyes" and "Carrot-top" can be used very maliciously.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-81628204382292090952012-03-19T18:08:27.454+00:002012-03-19T18:08:27.454+00:00Oh, I thought it was a little girl!
There was an ...Oh, I thought it was a little girl!<br /><br />There was an item on the radio this afternoon about nicknames, another area where teasing can become bullying. <br /><br />I am teased a lot about my 'blondeness' but I know it's done with affection.Liz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-26835194052872174122012-03-19T17:15:47.792+00:002012-03-19T17:15:47.792+00:00Ramana - Good to know the bullies have been warned...Ramana - Good to know the bullies have been warned off and left in splendid isolation! Perhaps they will see the error of their ways....Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-23456437265832435152012-03-19T14:43:03.645+00:002012-03-19T14:43:03.645+00:00I fully endorse your conclusion. We are a bunch o...I fully endorse your conclusion. We are a bunch of senior citizens, male and female, who meet every evening at the local park and the teasing is full of affection and gentle and it is actually invigorating. After the strenuous walks around the track to sit down and enjoy the banter and the teasing is looked forward to by every one. Some tease and some are teased but, it is all in good fun.<br /><br />On the other hand, there are some bullies, yes, senior citizen bullies who have been shown where to get off with our group and they keep a safe distance from us. It is sad to see them all by themselves not knowing how to get into our and other groups.Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-33468917595036717852012-03-19T08:26:44.071+00:002012-03-19T08:26:44.071+00:00Agent - I agree, the person being teased knows ver...Agent - I agree, the person being teased knows very well if it's teasing or bullying, and the teaser should respond to their reactions. I also agree that teasing women about their appearance is always unamusing and undermining.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-60804134948628356482012-03-19T07:57:26.196+00:002012-03-19T07:57:26.196+00:00www - Rean's hair was totally gorgeous and the...www - Rean's hair was totally gorgeous and the enforced haircut shows how entrenched gender roles - and prohibitive teasing - still are.<br /><br />Jay - Exactly right. If the person is taking it badly, it's become bullying and it should stop immediately. But as you say, gentle teasing can help someone to learn.nickhttp://nickhereandnow.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-2010317418610502732012-03-19T00:51:30.223+00:002012-03-19T00:51:30.223+00:00I think the line between teasing and bullying is i...I think the line between teasing and bullying is in the eye of the person being teased. If it hurts someone, you stop. No matter how gently meant. Affectionate teasing is fine, as long as the person is okay with it. But too many times, it is hurtful. And I think the general rule about women and their appearance is that it is NEVER okay to tease. We already have a complex about how we look.Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-39684405034252678832012-03-18T23:50:36.948+00:002012-03-18T23:50:36.948+00:00Ah, yes, teasing! Good post.
When does it cross ...Ah, yes, teasing! Good post.<br /><br />When does it cross the line? Simple - it crosses the line when the person on the receiving end takes it badly and the person handing it out does not stop, but escalates the tease. It crosses the line when children cry. It crosses the line when it is done maliciously with intend to wound.<br /><br />But really, that doesn't deserve the name of teasing. When it crosses the line, it is definitely bullying. To me, teasing should always be gentle and done with humour. That way it is a valuable learning tool and teaches children (and older people) not to take themselves too seriously.Jay at The Depp Effecthttp://www.thedeppeffect.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-1040668883335692662012-03-18T23:16:49.728+00:002012-03-18T23:16:49.728+00:00I've always thought there is thin fine line be...I've always thought there is thin fine line between 'teasing' and bullying and I've watched it get completely out of hand within my family and on me. And no reaction on the part of the victim made it worse in my case.<br />I felt for that poor little boy and his gorgeous hair and the non acceptance (at such an early age!) of non-normative (what's that, lol) looks and behaviour. This escalates into bullying of LGBT youth so quickly and we can see its roots here.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-39124863944382404972012-03-18T18:59:53.942+00:002012-03-18T18:59:53.942+00:00Bijoux - I think part of the problem is teasing th...Bijoux - I think part of the problem is teasing that's constant rather than a one-off. If you're teased once you can shrug it off, but if you're teased endlessly it gets under your skin.<br /><br />Are today's kids crybabies? I don't know, as I don't have much to do with kids. I do think that kids with plenty of self-confidence are less bothered by teasing, or else they tell the teaser to take a running jump.<br /><br />I had to google flood pants, btw. Hadn't heard the term before!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-28392404584573272362012-03-18T16:59:53.666+00:002012-03-18T16:59:53.666+00:00This is a topic that has been on my mind a lot lat...This is a topic that has been on my mind a lot lately, with all the news stories. I do wonder if some of the bullying could be easily stopped if kids were taught to stand up for themselves and not be victims. It makes me wonder what goes on at home. I think if I'd come home and told my parents, "Suzy was teasing me today about my flood pants" (my pants were always too short because I grew so much every year), my parents would have said, "You need to ignore Suzy and quit worrying what other people think!" <br /><br />Personally, I think a lot of parents kowtow to their kids, which has led us to raise a generation or two of cry babies.<br /><br />**Disclaimer: I'm not talking about kids who are being physically or emotionally taunted about their sexuality/race/religion, etc. Just general teasing that most kids face in life.Bijouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05788630004051883635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-90055303046789434192012-03-18T10:39:43.522+00:002012-03-18T10:39:43.522+00:00Scarlet - That's annoying. Why does Blogger ha...Scarlet - That's annoying. Why does Blogger have to keep playing around with everything? I shall see if I can install something-or-other.<br /><br />You mean, you sometimes feel older than 21?<br /><br />Jenny - Indeed, it's sexual harassment. And it's still a raging epidemic, however invisible it may be to those who don't encounter it.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-39680497100681240912012-03-18T09:43:36.404+00:002012-03-18T09:43:36.404+00:00'Men still think it's fine to tease women ...'Men still think it's fine to tease women about their figures, or their sexiness, or their clothes'... that's called sexual harassment, and you are right Nick, lots of men still think it's fine and dandyJennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05779579054897917982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-27657508713152028052012-03-18T09:40:23.437+00:002012-03-18T09:40:23.437+00:00...some days I feel that old...!
Sx...some days I feel that old...!<br />SxMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-71611836788508462102012-03-18T09:39:51.076+00:002012-03-18T09:39:51.076+00:00Tsk, I can no longer subscribe to your comment fee...Tsk, I can no longer subscribe to your comment feed, which is sad, I've discovered that I can only subscribe to comment feeds that have embedded comment boxes at the bottom of the post or a feed atom thingy for comments.<br />It's like the old days when I used to have to keep going back to see if the blog author had replied.<br />SxMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-60361244440307679352012-03-18T09:39:27.030+00:002012-03-18T09:39:27.030+00:00Scarlet - As you wish. You can be my granny too, i...Scarlet - As you wish. You can be my granny too, if you like. Though that would make you about 125.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-31427255003370325762012-03-18T09:36:27.016+00:002012-03-18T09:36:27.016+00:00*sniggers*
I will call you Little Nickers from now...*sniggers*<br />I will call you Little Nickers from now on.<br />SxMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-18853672162883837392012-03-18T09:07:53.751+00:002012-03-18T09:07:53.751+00:00Heart - She was certainly full of bullshit. Of cou...Heart - She was certainly full of bullshit. Of course the person teased can tell the difference, and of course tormenting someone isn't a sign of love. Your mother should have told him off and not been so absurdly blasé about it.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-2701877493684163722012-03-18T09:04:07.489+00:002012-03-18T09:04:07.489+00:00Stew - Oh, I've obviously misled you here. I w...Stew - Oh, I've obviously misled you here. I was bullied constantly for four years at boarding school, so I'm very aware of the distress it causes and the need to stop it. I've posted several times about bullying. But I would distinguish between teasing, which might or might not be bullying, and bullying, which can take many forms, teasing being one of them.<br /><br />The bullying in my case took the form of ostracism and aloofness.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-61129833942856783232012-03-18T08:56:33.375+00:002012-03-18T08:56:33.375+00:00John G - Well, what's "normal" is wh...John G - Well, what's "normal" is what we all decide is normal. If enough of us decided malicious teasing had to stop, then it would cease to be normal. After all, slavery and TB were once normal.<br /><br />John D - Normal isn't an old-fashioned concept, but all it means is "what most people do". If most people decide to do something else, then the something else becomes normal instead.<br /><br />Sorry if I'm being tediously analytical here!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-16424247851968365822012-03-18T05:05:31.954+00:002012-03-18T05:05:31.954+00:00There is sometimes a fine line between affectionat...There is sometimes a fine line between affectionate and hostile teasing, but the one being teased usually can tell the difference. My much-older brother used to torment me as a child but if I whined to my mother, she always said, "Big brothers always tease their sisters. It's because he loves you." I knew she was full of bs even then, but couldn't do anything about it.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.com