tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post420640416438613049..comments2024-03-28T07:49:04.960+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: The real menickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-51201976398935999272016-05-13T08:30:25.130+01:002016-05-13T08:30:25.130+01:00Maria: "Vivi e lascia vivere" is very mu...Maria: "Vivi e lascia vivere" is very much my guideline as well. There are too many people fuming and raging over things that really aren't that important. We're all different and we should be a bit more tolerant of those differences. But my mother is 94 even though she's one of the fuming tendency!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-76301908758053918592016-05-13T08:24:34.019+01:002016-05-13T08:24:34.019+01:00Nick, my father-in-law used to say, "Vivi e l...Nick, my father-in-law used to say, "Vivi e lascia vivere" - he was a happy man and lived to be 93. "Live and let live" is what I stick to now...I want to live to be 103! <br />Greetings Maria xMariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01525028325800849416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-25839365682134152882016-05-13T08:21:46.445+01:002016-05-13T08:21:46.445+01:00Dave: Extraordinary! Reminds me of those shabbily-...Dave: Extraordinary! Reminds me of those shabbily-dressed old tramps everyone assumes to be poverty-stricken, but after their death they turn out to have had millions stashed away. Also reminds me of those people who pretend to be going to work every day, when actually they were sacked months ago.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-50570143304427084152016-05-13T08:12:32.653+01:002016-05-13T08:12:32.653+01:00With reference to John's comment above and you...With reference to John's comment above and your reply:<br />In the street where we used to live there was a couple who were always immaculately turned out - her with not a hair out of place, well made-up, posh clothes, him in an expensive suit with briefcase, and every day they'd climb into their up-to-date 7 Series BMW and go off together.<br />For ages we didn't know exactly where they lived, but then one day we saw them getting out of the car and walking back to their house, which turned out to be the most dilapidated unkempt shithole in the area.<br />Just goes to show you can't necessarily trust the picture that you're presented with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-44793743053422177482016-05-12T14:29:53.858+01:002016-05-12T14:29:53.858+01:00John: A truism indeed. Until you know what someone...John: A truism indeed. Until you know what someone gets up to behind closed curtains and closed doors, you only half know them.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-41692246120236371352016-05-12T14:23:59.561+01:002016-05-12T14:23:59.561+01:00My mother had a saying
" you never know ANYON...My mother had a saying<br />" you never know ANYONE until you follow them home" <br /><br />Perhaps a real truism me thinksJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-45764194191911122822016-05-12T10:40:12.750+01:002016-05-12T10:40:12.750+01:00Mia: Life is indeed a theatre stage, and we're...Mia: Life is indeed a theatre stage, and we're all performing an imagined "role" in any situation. I also like to be honest, but unfortunately honesty isn't always appreciated so has to be used sparingly to avoid nasty scenes. Especially as you say with people of opposing political views who can get quite vicious when their opinions are even mildly disagreed with.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-9243502456030082452016-05-12T08:53:31.068+01:002016-05-12T08:53:31.068+01:00I suppose we all perform on the daily life "t...I suppose we all perform on the daily life "theater-stage"....I try to be authentic and honest but people are not always pleased with this kind of behaviour. I am on the very left side for my political views and always say what I think. Why should I apologize when right wing people or even fascists have no restrictions in showing their racist, unhuman and not at all charismatic point of view.<br />Mia MoreAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-60087566271815342482016-05-12T07:58:20.693+01:002016-05-12T07:58:20.693+01:00Tammy: Ambiverts of the world unite! After I'v...Tammy: Ambiverts of the world unite! After I've been socialising for a while, my brain gets a bit scrambled and I definitely need some time to myself to recover. I do admire those people who can socialise non-stop and seem to thrive on it.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-52628321474954077842016-05-12T03:03:16.717+01:002016-05-12T03:03:16.717+01:00ambivert!
finally. the answer!
I love my solitude....ambivert!<br />finally. the answer!<br />I love my solitude. I have to have it. I can not go out for days and be perfectly and totally happy! not seeing another human. or speaking to one.<br />and yet. I can also be the life of the party and enjoy it completely.<br />I am talkative and friendly and outgoing when it's called for.<br />and like you... I have long wondered which is the REAL me. <br />and now thanks to that definition I know! <br />they're both me.<br />I learned from moving every single year of my growing up life...<br />that kids are judgmental. you are always and forever 'the new girl.' <br />so you are friendly so they will like you. you don't have time for them to REALLY get to know you. <br />I still feel like the new girl. it's genuine.<br />but it also wears me out. I have to have a LOT of my alone time to renew from that energy.<br />very odd. but I've grown accustomed to it now. <br />I understand every word you're saying here. <br />tammy jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16568939993585811311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-25025045294663394662016-05-12T00:01:09.031+01:002016-05-12T00:01:09.031+01:00Helen: They do. And the result is quite a tangle o...Helen: They do. And the result is quite a tangle of inaccuracies and misconceptions!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-67099844506233724652016-05-11T23:41:54.030+01:002016-05-11T23:41:54.030+01:00People see us through their own eyes, not through ...People see us through their own eyes, not through ours,so to our own mix they bring their own.<br />Helen Devriesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-25288295889010216302016-05-11T21:18:53.005+01:002016-05-11T21:18:53.005+01:00Jean: True, people often believe what they want to...Jean: True, people often believe what they want to believe. And you wonder how on earth they arrived at some idea that bears no relation to your actual identity.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-11736059463289841012016-05-11T21:12:15.517+01:002016-05-11T21:12:15.517+01:00I agree, we're all a mixture. Mostly I don...I agree, we're all a mixture. Mostly I don't worry about my image, mainly because people are going to believe what they want to believe. If I act in ways I don't like, then I try to figure out why and do something about it. CheerfulMonkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934008738777906970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-32678965357950556502016-05-11T17:32:59.035+01:002016-05-11T17:32:59.035+01:00Ramana: Well, I guess we're all a mixture of d...Ramana: Well, I guess we're all a mixture of different things, depending on the occasion and depending on how we feel. I can be polite or rude, bossy or humble, po-faced or emotional - whatever is required.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-59086402163193813602016-05-11T17:28:37.104+01:002016-05-11T17:28:37.104+01:00Ursula: It's so easy for people to misundersta...Ursula: It's so easy for people to misunderstand each other. It happens to me all the time. People read the oddest things into what I've said. And no doubt the other way round. If I pretend to be something I'm not (e.g. right-wing old fogey), I do it so deadpan it can easily be taken as real. So pretending is best avoided.<br /><br />I'm writing from the heart? I couldn't say, I just spill out whatever comes to mind....Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-55450337096341638382016-05-11T15:40:41.567+01:002016-05-11T15:40:41.567+01:00There is a word for someone like you, ambivert. T...There is a word for someone like you, ambivert. That is one who is both an introvert and an extrovert when needed. I am one too. I have simply accepted that this is the way I am.Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-61887890868145914222016-05-11T13:52:38.686+01:002016-05-11T13:52:38.686+01:00Interesting subject, Nick.
Trust me (despite not ...Interesting subject, Nick.<br /><br />Trust me (despite not being your mother): We are all the genuine article. There are many many facets to all of us - and what you lament, namely, how people will perceive you is sometimes, though not always, out of our hands. I know this because there have been occasions in my life when those who not only "know" me but are by our bond well disposed to me have taken offence or NOT. One of the more memorable was once upon a time (we were about nineteen) - among a group of friends - discussing something and I played devil's advocate. I played it so well (nurturing my appetite for animated debate) that the fall out that evening was truly amazing. Nay, astonishing.<br /><br />Yes, Nick, astonishing. It was a seminal moment of my life. There were those who saw straight through my charade of carefully worded contrariness and applauded, and those who took it at face value and went off me for, say, five minutes till they got the joke. It taught me one of the most valuable lessons of my life. Namely, that you think people "know" you, yet even those close to you may miss the point. As indeed - and this is important to remember - you might miss theirs.<br /><br />I know exactly who I am, what I am, where my faults lie, where my strengths are. It's the devil's own job - sometimes, rarely - to make others look into that mirror and myself into theirs.<br /><br />Never do I like you more, Nick, than when you write something truly from the heart.<br /><br />UUrsulahttp://bitchontheblog.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-24365900950559326852016-05-11T13:32:02.242+01:002016-05-11T13:32:02.242+01:00Bijoux: Very true. Unfortunately I've always b...Bijoux: Very true. Unfortunately I've always been a bit of an over-thinker....<br /><br />Grannymar: Thank you for those effusive compliments. The cheque is in the post, ha ha. I must admit I'm not often potty-mouthed and sweary. Someone has to be seriously insulting before that happens.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-71348757277069710612016-05-11T12:08:14.038+01:002016-05-11T12:08:14.038+01:00Nick,I have known you since you began blogging... ...Nick,I have known you since you began blogging... about nine years now, I think? We have met many times an different situations and never found you to be'potty-mouthed and sweary. <br /><br />You are corteous,intelligent, interesting and easy to chat to and with. Grannymarhttp://grannymar.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-75849863177360849842016-05-11T11:42:39.678+01:002016-05-11T11:42:39.678+01:00I think it's hard to be yourself when you give...I think it's hard to be yourself when you give it too much thought, but you already know that.Bijouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05788630004051883635noreply@blogger.com