tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post3898874173991516809..comments2024-03-17T12:29:06.250+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: A move too farnickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-42456522845518605812013-07-04T15:28:23.336+01:002013-07-04T15:28:23.336+01:00Bijoux: With the best will in the world, you can w...Bijoux: With the best will in the world, you can want to make a go of something but if your heart's not in it you just have to accept the reality.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-46777154587057304382013-07-04T12:13:09.629+01:002013-07-04T12:13:09.629+01:00A friend of mine moved with her family 2000 miles ...A friend of mine moved with her family 2000 miles cross country just because her spouse always wanted to live on the west coast. After giving it the old college try for five years, she and the kids were so miserable, they almost split up. Counseling saved their marriage and they eventually moved back.Bijouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05788630004051883635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-80314761188732951142013-07-02T13:36:43.098+01:002013-07-02T13:36:43.098+01:00Maria: I also detest snow. Luckily we don't ge...Maria: I also detest snow. Luckily we don't get much here so it's not a big bugbear. I sympathise with the guy who wants to stay put. Surely they and their daughter can just visit each other? And presumably when she's finished at dental school she'll move somewhere else anyway?Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-61842633780072168442013-07-02T13:21:11.932+01:002013-07-02T13:21:11.932+01:00We are in total agreement that when my partner ret...We are in total agreement that when my partner retires in two years, we are moving South. We both detest snow and live on the prairie where we get a LOT of it. <br /><br />We have a neighbor who is just miserable with a move, though. He and his wife have a daughter in dental school in North Carolina. His wife wants to move there to be closer to her. Although retired, he has a part time job with his church and loves our neighborhood. They are still bickering. Right now, the wife is set to move there in two weeks. He says he will stay in their home until it sells and then join her. I think he will drag his feet on the selling....Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05049511202014141182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-85526781930529620262013-06-29T21:33:53.591+01:002013-06-29T21:33:53.591+01:00www: He obviously knew you very well! I like those...www: He obviously knew you very well! I like those rambling old houses with lots of mysterious corridors and odd-shaped rooms and elaborate decorative features.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-51245079737513877422013-06-29T20:58:08.288+01:002013-06-29T20:58:08.288+01:00One time, on a whim, my ex bought a house in a tow...One time, on a whim, my ex bought a house in a town 30 miles from where we lived and told me I would absolutely adore it as it was a century home with four floors of intriguing corners and window seats.<br />He was right.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-31509865520045642752013-06-29T19:21:36.154+01:002013-06-29T19:21:36.154+01:00Liz: Cobh (pronounced Cove), near Cork in southern...Liz: Cobh (pronounced Cove), near Cork in southern Ireland, was the Titanic's last port of call before it crossed the Atlantic to New York. I've never been to the Titanic Experience in Cobh, but it looks as though it's quite similar to what you see in the Titanic Belfast exhibition.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-58270777080578560032013-06-29T17:14:29.397+01:002013-06-29T17:14:29.397+01:00Ursula, I'm in Swansea a few hundred yards fro...Ursula, I'm in Swansea a few hundred yards from the sea front and at the gateway to Gower. <br /><br />Nick, we visited the Titanic exhibition at what was the name of the place? I think it was said cove but spelled differently! Where it set off from?Liz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-1375489167862947172013-06-28T21:04:46.285+01:002013-06-28T21:04:46.285+01:00Jenny: I suppose existing stresses can make disagr...Jenny: I suppose existing stresses can make disagreement more likely. And as you say, alternatively, those who are committed to the relationship will find compromise easier. I think that was definitely true in our case.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-69219251690664013732013-06-28T19:57:14.997+01:002013-06-28T19:57:14.997+01:00Could it be a reflection of the stresses already e...Could it be a reflection of the stresses already existing in the marriage, do you think? Most people who marry want more or less the same things out of life, at heart. And most of all they want to keep the marriage going becuase they value and respect their partner, so eventually compromise is possible. An interesting post!Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-85677137956334421392013-06-28T19:10:32.648+01:002013-06-28T19:10:32.648+01:00Ursula: That's a splendid coincidence, since I...Ursula: That's a splendid coincidence, since I live a couple of miles from the dock where the Titanic was built. Which is why I'm so fascinated by the Titanic story.<br /><br />I used to visit the English south coast a lot at one time. My favourites were the especially scenic Eastbourne, Broadstairs and Hastings.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-21353062265062841332013-06-28T17:42:07.951+01:002013-06-28T17:42:07.951+01:00Liz, that is so funny and true: "Southampton ...Liz, that is so funny and true: "Southampton doesn't really count as seaside". <br /><br />I live right round the corner of the dock the Titanic set sail from, their shipping office being Canute Street, Southampton. Yet, and you are right, despite so close to the sea with the seagulls being noisy buggers every morning, and despite the yacht harbour and all, it is so totally different to, say, Bournemouth, with its promenades, sandy beaches and endless piers. As indeed is Brighton. Where are you now?<br /><br />UUrsulahttp://bitchontheblog.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-5513719361853093582013-06-28T17:35:07.358+01:002013-06-28T17:35:07.358+01:00Liz: That was very accommodating of you! And a ver...Liz: That was very accommodating of you! And a very sensible condition. I love being near the sea myself, I wouldn't want to be too far from it if I moved again.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-11915029994832821642013-06-28T17:18:15.876+01:002013-06-28T17:18:15.876+01:00I told Husband I'd go anywhere - as long as it...I told Husband I'd go anywhere - as long as it was near the sea. So we went to Southampton for a time. With regular trips out to the coast because Southampton doesn't really count as seaside.Liz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-52946518584893317432013-06-28T17:15:30.374+01:002013-06-28T17:15:30.374+01:00Ramana: Yes, some people seem to cope very well wi...Ramana: Yes, some people seem to cope very well with constant moves, or even thrive on them, while others are like fish out of water. There's no predicting how it's going to turn out.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-46025603202021959372013-06-28T15:02:49.676+01:002013-06-28T15:02:49.676+01:00My late wife and I moved ten times during the fort...My late wife and I moved ten times during the forty years of our marriage. It was something that we knew we would have to do before marriage and so it was no big deal. On the other hand, I know of some couples in what we call long distance marriages with the husband and wife living in different places due to compulsions of different careers and that seems to work fine too. I also know of marriages breaking down due to such compulsions. It just shows that human beings are difficult to stereotype.Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-76396048315637662792013-06-28T13:21:06.904+01:002013-06-28T13:21:06.904+01:00Agent: Moving is an expensive business. Not to be ...Agent: Moving is an expensive business. Not to be contemplated unless there's a very good reason for it. I couldn't face anywhere bitterly cold either. Northern Irish winters are quite cold enough.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-3845860897752275882013-06-28T11:41:28.048+01:002013-06-28T11:41:28.048+01:00When I was married, we were always able to reach a...When I was married, we were always able to reach an agreement about where we moved, and shifted back and forth in terms of whose education/career we were moving for. These days, I would't just pack up and move unless the person had enough money to suport both of us because my income would take a huge hit if I moved. After I retire, different story and I'd be very open to moving for someone else as long as it was to a place I found agreeable. But I'd probably bow ou of a relationship before I moved somewhere bitterly cold. Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-65274326262449631962013-06-28T09:22:17.499+01:002013-06-28T09:22:17.499+01:00Speccy: It's when you have to embark on the la...Speccy: It's when you have to embark on the laborious process of actually finding a new home and organising the move that your enthusiasm is sorely tested! Personally, I'm glad you're still here in Belfast and not a hundred miles away!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-76329451789019077992013-06-28T09:18:47.844+01:002013-06-28T09:18:47.844+01:00Ursula: I'm glad to hear you never saw yoursel...Ursula: I'm glad to hear you never saw yourself as the loyal tagger-along but were quite happy to move around! But personally I think I would have gone mad if I had to live in Milton Keynes. I stayed there once for a couple of weeks and that was more than enough.<br /><br />I'm sure there are plenty of people like you who enjoy regular uprooting, but alas, there are also plenty of people who don't!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-19453732047267294452013-06-28T09:15:02.841+01:002013-06-28T09:15:02.841+01:00A few years ago I took a notion about moving to th...A few years ago I took a notion about moving to the seaside. Spurs Fan was horrified, but had a plan... We looked at houses, we talked to estate agents and eventually I ran out of steam (realised that we couldn't afford to & that I hadn't the energy.) If we ever do move, it will be because it suits us all and is practical. In the meantime, we have a caravan :)speccyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12910768878700620483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-31678103852410084522013-06-28T09:04:00.215+01:002013-06-28T09:04:00.215+01:00Am a little surprised at your reply to Grannymar&#...Am a little surprised at your reply to Grannymar's comment: What 'little woman' tagging along 'loyally'? I most certainly am not a little woman yet there was never any question over moving to wherever my husband's career took him. I'd have followed him to the moon. Instead of which I ended up in England. Milton Keynes. Of all places. To then find myself in Bournemouth. Of all places. Now I am somewhere else again.<br /><br />I am lucky because I am at home anywhere. Must be the gypsy in me. Give me a roof and hot water and I am as happy as the proverbial Larry whose identity still has not been disclosed to me. Or indeed the reason why he was so happy.<br /><br />UUrsulahttp://bitchontheblog.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-34478479366602552052013-06-28T08:16:03.219+01:002013-06-28T08:16:03.219+01:00Liz: Well, I can understand his fondness for Chica...Liz: Well, I can understand his fondness for Chicago, having visited a few years ago! That's a good practical way of dimming his nostalgia for a bit....<br /><br />Jean: No point in moving unless you really want to or need to. And it saves an awful lot of moving costs and emotional overload!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-72402437543915220652013-06-28T08:01:11.670+01:002013-06-28T08:01:11.670+01:00My husband and I both hate to move, so we've b...My husband and I both hate to move, so we've been in this apartment almost 39 years. It's not fancy, but I love it. Cheerful Monkhttp://cheerfulmonk.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-63678258494250473422013-06-28T07:06:26.894+01:002013-06-28T07:06:26.894+01:00Oh yes, I know something about this. Everyone once...Oh yes, I know something about this. Everyone once in awhile, my husband gets incredibly nostalgic about Chicago and wants to leave Los Angeles. I just tell him that if he wants to organize the whole thing and pay for it, then OK. That usually kills the nostalgia.Los Angelistahttp://www.losangelista.comnoreply@blogger.com