tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post3047434312209544226..comments2024-03-28T07:49:04.960+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: Under the influencenickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-6735723081086647072014-04-04T17:08:42.406+01:002014-04-04T17:08:42.406+01:00Ramana: Good point that oldies may not have much i...Ramana: Good point that oldies may not have much in the way of possibilities, but we've achieved all sorts of things in the past which we can be proud of. As long as we haven't done anything too heinous, that is.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-19364826563521882922014-04-04T15:12:25.694+01:002014-04-04T15:12:25.694+01:00Okay, you are not as old as I am but you will get ...Okay, you are not as old as I am but you will get there and you will appreciate this.<br /><br />I get inspired about life in general and mine in particular by going back often to Viktor Frankl. I quote and I hope that you will get inspired too.<br /><br />".....the opportunities to act properly, the potentialities to fulfill a meaning, are affected by the irreversibility of our lives. But also the potentialities alone are so affected. For as soon as we have used an opportunity and have actualized a potential meaning, we have done so once and for all. We have rescued it into the past, nothing is irretrievably lost, but rather, on the contrary, everything is irrevocably stored and treasured. To be sure, people tend to see only the stubble field of transitoriness but overlook and forget the full granaries of the past into which they brought the harvest of their lives: the deeds done, the loves loved, and last but not least, the sufferings they have gone through with courage and dignity.<br /><br />From this one may see that there is no reason to pity old people. Instead, young people should envy them. It is true that the old have no opportunities, no possibilities in the future. But they have more than that. Instead of possibilities in the future, they have realities in the past - the potentialities that they have actualized, the meanings they have fulfilled, the values they have realized - and nothing and nobody can ever remove these assets from the past."<br /><br />Viktor E Frankl - Man's Search for Meaning.<br />Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-12081258555196563712014-04-01T07:20:49.234+01:002014-04-01T07:20:49.234+01:00Jay: Oh dear, that must be hard to deal with. I h...Jay: Oh dear, that must be hard to deal with. I hope at least you have ways of damping down the negative emotions.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-48182123209977153482014-04-01T00:01:54.502+01:002014-04-01T00:01:54.502+01:00You are very fortunate if your mind rejects memori...You are very fortunate if your mind rejects memories of negative emotions. Mine, sadly, does not. It only takes a small thing to remind me of a time or an event in the past, and then the emotions associated with it, good or bad, come flooding back. Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00496924033221866102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-54217396071771580332014-03-31T21:25:36.965+01:002014-03-31T21:25:36.965+01:00Ursula: True, practice can make perfect. Not alway...Ursula: True, practice can make perfect. Not always though. Sometimes constant practice just means years and years of excruciating cacophony.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-20262964529305793142014-03-31T17:06:53.548+01:002014-03-31T17:06:53.548+01:00Nick, I agree with your response to Jean, that doi...Nick, I agree with your response to Jean, that doing something poorly is not worth doing. <br /><br />On the other hand, to find some middle ground for the two of you, sometimes practice makes perfect. Trust me: When you start playing the violin every cat in the vicinity will bolt, your parents wish they'd never forked out the money, and everyone else just turns up the volume to drown out screeching sounds.<br /><br />U Ursulahttp://bitchontheblog.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-47789356972904104522014-03-31T07:41:23.804+01:002014-03-31T07:41:23.804+01:00Suburbia: Exactly. Sometimes so subconsciously yo...Suburbia: Exactly. Sometimes so subconsciously you simply don't know it's happening and you genuinely think you are in control. A pain in the arse indeed.<br /><br />Jean: No, I don't agree anything worth doing is worth doing poorly. I don't think it's a matter of ego. If I can't do something I'm proud of, I'd rather not bother.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-69400127157576723482014-03-30T22:37:45.011+01:002014-03-30T22:37:45.011+01:00Nick,
Why do you think you need talent? I cheerfu...Nick,<br />Why do you think you need talent? I cheerfully admit I don't have any in art, but that doesn't prevent me from having a good time slapping paint on paper. Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly. Get your ego out of the way and do it! Some of my attempts may not be good, but I like them better than a lot of modern art. <br /><br />Suburbia,<br />I learned long ago that it's my subconscious that runs the show, so I've learned to make it my friend. There are all sorts of ways of doing that, but most people don't think in those terms. Cheerful Monkhttp://cheerfulmonk.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-28280116136705100692014-03-30T21:36:35.464+01:002014-03-30T21:36:35.464+01:00Sometimes the past affects your actions subconscio...Sometimes the past affects your actions subconsciously - now that's just a pain in the A***!Suburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-16689226638483730272014-03-30T09:52:20.263+01:002014-03-30T09:52:20.263+01:00Ramana: I think recurring negative thoughts, feeli...Ramana: I think recurring negative thoughts, feelings and memories always have an inhibiting effect on us, whether we like it or not. Otherwise we'd all be saints, millionaires or creative geniuses.<br /><br />Jean: I suspect I would be an artist if my parents had been more interested in art and it had been a more valued subject at school. As an adult, I've never believed in my artistic talent enough to try and develop it.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-26095189523389854362014-03-30T05:54:50.368+01:002014-03-30T05:54:50.368+01:00How would you be different if past experiences did...How would you be different if past experiences didn't hold you back? I'm a lot older than you are, and fortunately my ambitions are a good match to my reduced energy level. :) CheerfulMonkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934008738777906970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-60025031205557706512014-03-30T03:17:07.302+01:002014-03-30T03:17:07.302+01:00Perfectly natural and this is about how everybody ...Perfectly natural and this is about how everybody on this planet is unless s/he is enlightened in the spiritual sense. The trick is in accepting that this happens, observe it when it crops up, and allow it to go away as it will in time. I have found that after a few such observations, those particular thoughts do not crop up. Others however keep cropping up to be tackled exactly like the ones that have dropped off.Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-34256601326072581712014-03-29T07:48:48.447+00:002014-03-29T07:48:48.447+00:00Jean: I'm also happy with my life (despite al...Jean: I'm also happy with my life (despite all my neuroses!) but I feel there are certain past experiences that constantly drag at me and stop me being everything I could be. But that's just something I have to work around, it's not the end of the world.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-64611722218246671242014-03-29T06:08:23.394+00:002014-03-29T06:08:23.394+00:00I'm happy with my life and I figure what's...I'm happy with my life and I figure what's happened in the past has gotten me here. So for me the past is no problem. If some memory bothers me I figure it's just something that still needs to be processed, so I try to learn something from it. I suppose that's unusual, but my hobby has always been personal growth and by now I have a whole bag of techniques at my disposal. Cheerful Monkhttp://cheerfulmonk.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-49797153049036211082014-03-28T18:21:52.734+00:002014-03-28T18:21:52.734+00:00Liz: That's what I mean about making the same ...Liz: That's what I mean about making the same daft decisions over and over! The trouble is, I tend to see my past errors of judgment as being perfectly reasonable decisions in the light of what I knew at the time. And then I go on to make the same errors of judgment all over again.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-42038476312374022122014-03-28T18:13:01.866+00:002014-03-28T18:13:01.866+00:00I was searching for appropriate quotes about mothe...I was searching for appropriate quotes about mothers for the church notices today and naturally I got distracted and started reading all sorts of self help stuff, which often mentioned not dwelling on the past. I don't dwell on it but when i feel bad about something all my past errors of judgement tend to raise their ugly heads and say, 'yes, well, we told you so.'<br />Liz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-23106013030992326292014-03-28T12:21:57.204+00:002014-03-28T12:21:57.204+00:00John: Some have stronger anti-negativity mechanism...John: Some have stronger anti-negativity mechanisms than others. Some people are unfortunately so susceptible to negativity that they end up killing themselves.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-34002138237793192442014-03-28T12:18:30.042+00:002014-03-28T12:18:30.042+00:00Agent: I'm quite good at discarding negative t...Agent: I'm quite good at discarding negative thoughts and memories, but as I say some of them are waiting in the wings to trip me up when I least expect it.<br /><br />Alan: It would be good if all our past memories and experience enabled us to make the correct decisions in the present, but I don't think we're quite as rational as that, and we sometimes find ourselves making the same daft decisions over and over.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-32721400153734997012014-03-28T11:53:09.431+00:002014-03-28T11:53:09.431+00:00Ah mental mechanisms that protect us from negativi...Ah mental mechanisms that protect us from negativity<br />We all have them<br />John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-19312054132156169742014-03-28T11:21:35.090+00:002014-03-28T11:21:35.090+00:00The best analogy I can relate with regard to my pa...The best analogy I can relate with regard to my past is to put it into the context of a file cabinet. There are bad things in there and there are grand things in there but they all make you who you are. We are defined in the end by what we do, both good and bad and not by what we think.<br /><br />Although there are things in my file cabinet which I am quite ashamed of, if I were somehow able to completely discard them, then who is to say that I would not commit the same grievous shame yet again. The things of the past, both good and bad are there to give us understanding and wisdom so that tomorrow we have them to draw on in making the correct decision that is right for us and a true reflection of who we are today.<br />Alan Ghttp://www.somefinalthoughts.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-82587579040904762652014-03-28T11:05:16.199+00:002014-03-28T11:05:16.199+00:00I think how you view the past is partly due to wir...I think how you view the past is partly due to wiring. Some people dwell more on the negative others more on the positive. It's only partially under your control, but I think it pays to put effort into letting go of negative thoughts/memories as they arise and re-focusing on the good. If you want to be happy, that is. Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-60849006133614844982014-03-28T09:53:46.387+00:002014-03-28T09:53:46.387+00:00Jenny: I agree, they seem almost robotic in their ...Jenny: I agree, they seem almost robotic in their unerring decisiveness! But I think the truth is they're carefully hiding all their private doubts and hesitations.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-53265682827163202322014-03-28T09:18:59.795+00:002014-03-28T09:18:59.795+00:00People with no self doubt and uncertainty always s...People with no self doubt and uncertainty always seem rather inhuman to me. Very admirable (or very frightening, depending on their beliefs) but I am not sure I would want them as friends! Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-87664382347187326062014-03-28T09:12:01.883+00:002014-03-28T09:12:01.883+00:00Ursula: I think some emotional wounds never scar o...Ursula: I think some emotional wounds never scar over. They go on bleeding and all you can do is keep mopping up the blood.<br /><br />There are very few things in my life I regret or feel guilty about. I know I did what I thought was right at the time, and I don't blame myself for any unintended consequences.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-85677945276928395202014-03-28T09:06:59.550+00:002014-03-28T09:06:59.550+00:00Susie: I don't usually confuse people's na...Susie: I don't usually confuse people's names, I just forget them. Even if I can remember their face really vividly.<br /><br />www: I think to some extent you can choose not to dwell on things and to push them away, but often you're powerless. As you say, sometimes memories can come flooding and all you can do is let them flood.Nicknoreply@blogger.com