tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post190961046901025957..comments2024-03-17T12:29:06.250+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: Growing apartnickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-41806086200234243202017-08-06T17:50:53.624+01:002017-08-06T17:50:53.624+01:00Agent: Me neither. There would be such huge fault ...Agent: Me neither. There would be such huge fault lines between our opinions, I can't see how a relationship could be sustainable.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-37343018473215079762017-08-06T17:47:35.050+01:002017-08-06T17:47:35.050+01:00Kylie: That's good to know!
Joared: It's ...Kylie: That's good to know!<br /><br />Joared: It's hard to believe a couple can have fundamentally different opinions and still rub along. I would have thought there'd be constant tension - and not the creative kind.<br /><br />Anecdotal accounts of alternative medicine "successes" need to be treated with a lot of caution. There are people out there peddling some very dubious and unproven remedies.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-46672240141646950482017-08-06T17:17:40.765+01:002017-08-06T17:17:40.765+01:00I could not be in a serious relationship with some...I could not be in a serious relationship with someone I wasn't aligned with in terms of religion, politics, world view. We can disagree about little things within those categories but I don't think I'd be able to be in a long-term relationship with someone who was very religious or conservative. Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-6261703896092603582017-08-06T13:28:45.464+01:002017-08-06T13:28:45.464+01:00Interestingly, some couples, maybe not many, may e...Interestingly, some couples, maybe not many, may enjoy and thrive on their differences -- they're a legitimate devil's advocate for each other. Certainly can stimulate thinking for both as they may have a "we agree not to agree" perspective on some issues, plus beliefs can evolve and change over the years. An expectation with efforts to change a partner's beliefs would be a recipe for disaster, however. <br /><br />As for alternative medicine, I would place my confidence in most scientifically proven successful medicine first and foremost. The medical condition I had would certainly dictate my attitude toward how I would go about treating it. Anecdotal accounts must be very carefully assessed as a few can provide important information but, if I was under treatment, I would certainly consult with my physician before adopting anything outside a prescribed regimen. joaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09999395062839739698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-65783798536425444262017-08-02T04:28:05.555+01:002017-08-02T04:28:05.555+01:00Not for a minute did i write off conventional medi...Not for a minute did i write off conventional medicinekyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-68640791446844513162017-08-01T14:25:31.371+01:002017-08-01T14:25:31.371+01:00Hattie: I think you're right, people who bang ...Hattie: I think you're right, people who bang on about alternative medicine are probably relying more on personal anecdotes than on scientific evidence. As you say, they probably don't hear all the negative experiences. In your situation I wouldn't resort to unproven remedies either. Too many people have tried them with disastrous results.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-950008891623052022017-08-01T02:43:36.437+01:002017-08-01T02:43:36.437+01:00We have been married 52 years. Dealing with my ill...We have been married 52 years. Dealing with my illness, stage 4 lung cancer, has brought us closer together than ever. He is a scientist, and I share his pragmatic point of view. I'm not especially tolerant of "alternative" medicine, because in talking to proponents of non-traditional treatments, I find that they often have no higher education and may be very deficient in scientific knowledge. They are too often satisfied with anecdotal narratives that promise a cure, etc. They may not hear the stories of patients who stopped taking chemo and died within weeks. I am doing way better with conventional treatments than anyone expected, including my oncologist, and would not dream of imperiling my situation by trying unproven methods of treatment. Hattiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13297404386730167834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-15275154277949490652017-07-30T16:47:55.106+01:002017-07-30T16:47:55.106+01:00Scarlet: Ice cream is cool, lol.Scarlet: Ice cream is cool, lol.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-11637342282939460572017-07-30T16:34:34.107+01:002017-07-30T16:34:34.107+01:00I believe in ice cream, too.
SxI believe in ice cream, too.<br />SxMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-14132679646248079892017-07-30T12:07:47.685+01:002017-07-30T12:07:47.685+01:00Jacqueline: Yes, people react in different ways to...Jacqueline: Yes, people react in different ways to a tragedy, and that might bring them together or drive them apart. If one person blames the other for the tragedy, that's not going to help.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-3566415399190594582017-07-30T11:30:32.501+01:002017-07-30T11:30:32.501+01:00Break up's often happen when there has been a ...Break up's often happen when there has been a tragedy in a couple's lives. One would think it would bring you closer together but there must beso many things going on in your mind after a tragic loss. Nice to know that you and Jenny only have bed linen and carpets to worry about !!! XXXXJacqueline @ HOMEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06154045482594773377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-19453321420461969492017-07-30T08:01:30.745+01:002017-07-30T08:01:30.745+01:00Tikno: The middle east is a horrifying mess. And T...Tikno: The middle east is a horrifying mess. And Tony Blair still denies that the Iraq War started the whole downward spiral.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-33463058102988936832017-07-30T04:26:21.959+01:002017-07-30T04:26:21.959+01:00A good thought from Dave Martin's comments.
Lo...A good thought from Dave Martin's comments.<br />Look in the middle east, there is plenty of time to argue rather than not make confrontations.Tiknohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05733973438543735098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-16688913407566733602017-07-29T07:29:18.640+01:002017-07-29T07:29:18.640+01:00Helen: I think heavy drinking contributes to a lot...Helen: I think heavy drinking contributes to a lot of break-ups. And yes, similar values are important. Jenny and I often say that's why we've stayed together so long.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-72896545384055919952017-07-29T07:26:04.070+01:002017-07-29T07:26:04.070+01:00There's a report today that a Londonderry coup...There's a report today that a Londonderry couple split up after a heated argument about how a bed should be made.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-55770715881393256642017-07-29T02:28:24.924+01:002017-07-29T02:28:24.924+01:00I had friends who split up about the fact that the...I had friends who split up about the fact that there were parts that Heineken could certainly reach, but most of us have stayed together...I suppose because we have the same values if not the same opinions.helen devriesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-55217523293445028652017-07-28T22:43:02.707+01:002017-07-28T22:43:02.707+01:00Treey: Apparently the number of atheists in the UK...Treey: Apparently the number of atheists in the UK is rising and the number of believers is dropping. So what's the Coronation Street connection?Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-54627140703169112092017-07-28T21:55:03.822+01:002017-07-28T21:55:03.822+01:00Mandy and I are atheists too. Now Coronation Stree...Mandy and I are atheists too. Now Coronation Street....Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08094441414025227387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-67813019801864150232017-07-28T20:44:39.392+01:002017-07-28T20:44:39.392+01:00Tammy: I agree, a natural saver and a spendthrift ...Tammy: I agree, a natural saver and a spendthrift are unlikely to stay together for long. Jenny's more of a spender than I am but she's a long way from being a spendthrift!Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-74159966660594317112017-07-28T19:39:34.776+01:002017-07-28T19:39:34.776+01:00"None of us can understand the need to obsess..."None of us can understand the need to obsess about our beliefs or the lack of it."<br />I like this phrase that rummy wrote.<br />also... I imagine in today's roller coaster economy the couples who feel the same way about money might be most important. nothing like a natural 'saver' living with a spouse who lets money run through their fingers like water! that will be a hard marriage indeed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-5402429255508873832017-07-28T19:33:05.038+01:002017-07-28T19:33:05.038+01:00Bijoux: Fair enough.
Jean: Indeed, after 53 years...Bijoux: Fair enough.<br /><br />Jean: Indeed, after 53 years it must be a pretty strong relationship, despite the differences.<br /><br />www: Yep, respect is so important, along with give and take, and an open mind. And some studies say one major factor in relationship breakdown is lack of communication. Couples just don't talk about things that are bugging them.Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-25484249217710490762017-07-28T19:13:21.521+01:002017-07-28T19:13:21.521+01:00I always thought it was money and its issues that ...I always thought it was money and its issues that drove couples apart along with lack of respect and consideration. H'm.<br /><br />They key to me has always been respect. I see the lack of that in so many couples including some recent PGs that stayed with me.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-31918756421207132582017-07-28T18:55:57.529+01:002017-07-28T18:55:57.529+01:00Andy and I don't agree on some seemingly impor...Andy and I don't agree on some seemingly important things --- he's a libertarian, is against progressives and environmentalists, etc. But he doesn't vote so I figure it's not a big problem. We work well together as a team so we have plenty of other things to talk about. Almost 53 years of marriage so far so it's safe to say it's working. CheerfulMonkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934008738777906970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-31619787570987686082017-07-28T18:24:44.914+01:002017-07-28T18:24:44.914+01:00I doubt that was the main reason, but I stay out o...I doubt that was the main reason, but I stay out of my kids' relationships as best as I can and he's a very private person.Bijouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05788630004051883635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-62698992505494313932017-07-28T17:23:20.752+01:002017-07-28T17:23:20.752+01:00Ramana: It seems to me that Indians are more toler...Ramana: It seems to me that Indians are more tolerant of other people's religion because the country has so many different ones. If people fell out over religion, it would be a non-stop fracas!Nicknoreply@blogger.com