tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post1462632830518849173..comments2024-03-28T07:49:04.960+00:00Comments on nickhereandnow: In the knownickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-61355424212327446462018-06-01T07:29:45.571+01:002018-06-01T07:29:45.571+01:00Jean: She seemed happy and healthy enough when I v...Jean: She seemed happy and healthy enough when I visited her a couple of weeks ago. But an unfortunate chain of events put her in hospital and she went rapidly downhill. As I write this, she's still hanging on but not expected to last much longer. She's in some distress and getting large doses of painkilling drugs.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-9178219456648323132018-05-31T21:51:42.085+01:002018-05-31T21:51:42.085+01:00I'm sorry to hear about your mother. You rece...I'm sorry to hear about your mother. You recently said she was happy in a nursing home, I hope she isn't suffering now. CheerfulMonkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934008738777906970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-43825169261107985082018-05-31T18:13:53.093+01:002018-05-31T18:13:53.093+01:00Thank you for your acknowledgement of what I have ...Thank you for your acknowledgement of what I have said. Rachel Phillipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16053924416805878169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-91914613466281497582018-05-31T16:59:39.708+01:002018-05-31T16:59:39.708+01:00Rachel: It wasn't my interpretation. They very...Rachel: It wasn't my interpretation. They very clearly called me anti-semitic. I accept now that the Labour Party is very deeply anti-semitic, and I was wrong to conclude otherwise. I'm not a member of the Labour Party so I can only go by what I read. I don't remember anything resembling a witch hunt (either against you or anyone else) but again my memory may be failing me.<br /><br />I came back to your blog because I've always found you interesting, even though obviously we have diametrically opposed views on some things. I understand that you don't feel comfortable with me and I was quite willing to stop leaving comments.<br /><br />I can only apologise for having said things that hurt or upset you. I certainly don't mean to do so.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-41567493113351005132018-05-31T16:47:01.916+01:002018-05-31T16:47:01.916+01:00Also, I would add finally that if you are aware th...Also, I would add finally that if you are aware that your memory is poor, it would be wiser not to make sweeping statement that you would never do such and such a thing yourself when you cannot now be sure. Rachel Phillipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16053924416805878169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-78913271606426974642018-05-31T16:37:14.598+01:002018-05-31T16:37:14.598+01:00I found your interpretation that someone had calle...I found your interpretation that someone had called you anti-semitic wrong and did so at the time. You were very grieved that I suggested that the Labour Party had an anti-semite problem and I thought you over-reacted and went into denial without looking at any facts and felt personally insulted. As you will now be aware, three years later, the story hit the headlines again and has now been acknowledged. At the time you hosted a witch hunt here for me and from that point on I never wanted you to comment on my blog again. I was referred to as "she" and your followers had fun guessing who I was. Quite why you have come back to me recently I have no idea, maybe because the anti-semitism has now been acknowledged you were putting cap in hand and coming back. However, I remember the witch hunt only too well and have never felt comfortable with you. I also found the suggestion that I am not methodical extremely hurtful as I told you at the time.Rachel Phillipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16053924416805878169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-32471515489266277032018-05-31T16:09:27.411+01:002018-05-31T16:09:27.411+01:00Rachel: I stand corrected. I do remember my uncall...Rachel: I stand corrected. I do remember my uncalled-for remark about whether you would be a good lawyer or not, and I apologise for that. Not sure what you mean about other remarks on your blog. I've made very few comments on your blog and I don't remember disparaging anyone. I do remember one of your blogmates claiming I was anti-semitic, which totally baffled me.<br /><br />You may be right that I have a selective memory. My memory is dreadful and always has been.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-11200029048811266512018-05-31T15:47:27.735+01:002018-05-31T15:47:27.735+01:00You have a very selective memory Nick. I suggest ...You have a very selective memory Nick. I suggest you move on from this post sooner rather than later. Remember the time when you said you did not think I was a methodical person and that I could not possibly do the job I so loved and was doing at the time because I was not methodical? You always look for the good in people? I don't think this is actually true. You may have convinced yourself it is true, but looking back at the things you have said about me and others on my blog, this is not so. Rachel Phillipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16053924416805878169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-41838880963025341362018-05-31T10:01:14.056+01:002018-05-31T10:01:14.056+01:00Chloe: Yes, it's fairly remarkable, even in th...Chloe: Yes, it's fairly remarkable, even in this era of increasing longevity. My father died at 70, so I could easily have gone first!<br /><br />John: Thanks for your support. Some people are obtuse to the point of idiocy.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-25875466399994417462018-05-31T09:43:40.235+01:002018-05-31T09:43:40.235+01:00Ursula , it's time to grow up. You've been...Ursula , it's time to grow up. You've been told to leave. You were not invited<br />Grow up and stop this persecution complex John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-60847675503094945992018-05-31T08:22:36.391+01:002018-05-31T08:22:36.391+01:00We will all die one day to have your mother still ...We will all die one day to have your mother still at the age of 71 is just a big chance.chloehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12896471907846731816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-87999320583348928842018-05-30T15:29:39.824+01:002018-05-30T15:29:39.824+01:00Ursula: My mother is close to death in a Cambridge...Ursula: My mother is close to death in a Cambridge hospital. Please fuck off.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-1038877177509452892018-05-30T14:45:05.366+01:002018-05-30T14:45:05.366+01:00Nick, I'll ignore your strange spiel on "...Nick, I'll ignore your strange spiel on "obsession". Or would you like me to quote you on what you have put out about me, in the public arena, on third party blogs (AFTER YEARS of us communicating)? And the reasons why you did so? Give me the word. My Alternative Comment Box is still open for jamming.<br /><br />Let me address your question "Have you ever wondered why you get so much personal abuse in certain parts of blogland?" I haven't so much wondered as acknowledged my part in all that went wrong. Do you, ever, acknowledge the part you play when communication goes wobbly? Do you?<br /><br />UUrsulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722046288685936851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-59906074174421820952018-05-30T07:51:52.083+01:002018-05-30T07:51:52.083+01:00Ms Scarlet: There's nothing to thrash out. Jus...Ms Scarlet: There's nothing to thrash out. Just a certain person who's besotted with me and won't stop pestering me. Plus a few other uncalled-for rude comments elsewhere.<br /><br />Jenny: Luckily I've never been on Twitter so I'm spared the Twitter mobs. Indeed, I'm so often a mystery to myself I'm just amazed at other people's confident pronouncements.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-83355748891315583742018-05-30T00:36:49.426+01:002018-05-30T00:36:49.426+01:00I do notice this on Twitter, when I'm accused ...I do notice this on Twitter, when I'm accused of all kinds of things, (or was, since I rarely post now). I have noticed if I ever say anything that suggests I know how someone's mind is working they always take care to do the exact opposite, which of course is as it should be. As you say, When we don't even know ourselves how can any of us presume to comment on others?Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-47313443143196781462018-05-29T22:47:01.141+01:002018-05-29T22:47:01.141+01:00What triggered this post, Nick?
Whatever beef you ...What triggered this post, Nick?<br />Whatever beef you have it's probably best to thrash it out in email.<br />SxMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-74244895953725423842018-05-29T20:44:49.545+01:002018-05-29T20:44:49.545+01:00Danielle: Personally I'm happy to look at my f...Danielle: Personally I'm happy to look at my faults, I know I'm far from perfect and I'm very willing to acknowledge the imperfections. The real ones that is. The totally absurd ones baffle me.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-24864175840916780182018-05-29T19:26:21.666+01:002018-05-29T19:26:21.666+01:00I think most people do it because it's less pa...I think most people do it because it's less painful to focus on someone else's faults than our own. It's still not nice, though! Danielle L Zecherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01492742250595537348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-22733096897040946992018-05-29T18:51:38.010+01:002018-05-29T18:51:38.010+01:00Ursula: I count at least nine separate accusations...Ursula: I count at least nine separate accusations there. I have neither the energy nor the inclination to respond to them all. If you have such a low opinion of me, I wonder why you are so obsessed with me to the point of writing entire blog posts about me.<br /><br />Have you ever wondered why you get so much personal abuse in certain parts of blogland?nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-28088963346836065132018-05-29T18:38:58.613+01:002018-05-29T18:38:58.613+01:00www: I don't understand what your last paragra...www: I don't understand what your last paragraph is referring to. It seems to me that I don't criticise other people's foibles (jeez, I have so many of my own), I merely remark on them as something that baffles me.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-9746140582207199462018-05-29T15:20:43.242+01:002018-05-29T15:20:43.242+01:00Yes, Helen, or you could do what Nick does when he...Yes, Helen, or you could do what Nick does when he takes a dislike to someone; say, yours truly. He goes round bad mouthing me on other blogs (not to my face), "ain't she ... (insert insult of choice)". Neither has he ever stood up for me in the face of rather unfair treatment when he knew full well it was unjust. Instead he takes the opportunity to ingratiate himself with the mud slingers by pouring even more oil onto the fire. Your downfall here, Nick, that you will not admit to having put a foot wrong. Like many you are unable to apologize. See what's happening here? I am building a picture of someone.<br /><br />I hear your complaint in above post, Nick. And yes, I plead guilty to calling you spineless. But that's not a psychological assessment. That's how, recently, you come across to me. <br /><br />You say you don't "psychologize" other people. That's what you do with virtual every post of yours. Which is fine. At best you can call it a running social commentary; at worst you standing in continual judgment over what "most" and "others" do. And how different you are. And you never ... And ... And ... Maybe you don't know you are doing it.<br /><br />Chiming in partly with both Kylie and WWW, you do divulge quite a lot about yourself - as we all do. It's only natural. Doesn't matter how we form an image of someone, be it in person, be it on the page. And let's not forget chemistry. Some people gel, others don't. That's neither bad nor good - it just is. <br /><br />One other point you may wish to consider, Nick: Spare a thought for the personal abuse I get in certain parts of blog land; I emphasize "personal", not challenging my opinions which is what I expect. My opinions - if and when they differ from the blogger - getting barely a look in. If you are as sensitive as you make out with your above post then you wouldn't last five minutes in my shoes. Look at the "Clive" comment in your previous post alone. That's what I call "psychologizing" whether tongue in cheek or not. I made a joke out of a full frontal which I still believe to be a spoof. Naturally, in certain circles, it fell flat on its face because, guess what, it came from me. Poor Clive. <br /><br />UUrsulahttp://bitchontheblog.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-32356173623632448142018-05-29T13:55:26.173+01:002018-05-29T13:55:26.173+01:00It depends on what one is looking for on line.
I&...It depends on what one is looking for on line.<br /><br />I've never been criticised psychologically on line, that I can recall - I imagine that's the secret, if I can't remember a slagging it hasn't mattered. I do get private advice via email, which I don't mind one bit.<br /><br />Then again I write a pretty open blog emotionally mainly because I am anonymous to many, but my blog has recently been breached by a fellow IRL board member so that may change.<br /><br />Interestingly, I do find you critical of those who read about and their human foibles and failings and I do wonder what that's about. :)<br /><br />XO<br />WWW<br />Wisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-41621280033323537712018-05-29T08:09:20.145+01:002018-05-29T08:09:20.145+01:00Helen: I don't think people care about having ...Helen: I don't think people care about having a respectable reason. They just take a dislike to someone and fire off a stream of invective for the sheer hell of it.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-55675493074444056712018-05-29T08:06:37.856+01:002018-05-29T08:06:37.856+01:00Kylie: Well, I don't necessarily accept the bo...Kylie: Well, I don't necessarily accept the bouquets either. People can butter you up with false praise for all sorts of reasons. As I said to Jean, I'm okay with constructive criticism but deliberate abuse for the sake of it is just bullying. And I'm not dismissing it on the basis that we haven't met, only on the basis of having a civilised conversation.nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3467242994126386706.post-38373032881853187242018-05-29T07:57:40.441+01:002018-05-29T07:57:40.441+01:00Jean: No, I don't hang out with people like th...Jean: No, I don't hang out with people like that either. I don't mind a bit of constructive criticism, but systematic slagging-off is a different matter.nicknoreply@blogger.com